I am 34 ans i have been suffering with anxiety and depression for a long time as well as ocd and being ott and obessive and i am having trouble letting go of the past and my stupid mistakes.It is so hard feeling so anxious and worried about every little thing especially when i cant change them and it would be nice to talk to someone who may be feeling the same as me
Hi rr84. I don’t know if it’s any help, but I feel the same. The past just won’t stay in the past. I obsess over mistakes etc. I cannot change anything. I want to get past thinking like this. Maybe try CBT. There must be a way of getting passed the past.
Hi yes it does to now i am not the only one like it and i just hate myself for things i have done and i cant change them so i dont know why obesses over them just regret it and thank u
Maybe try to distract your thoughts to break the obsessive cycle? I find cleaning helps me! At night it’s not so easy. I have to get up and make a drink. I don’t know how to stop beating myself up over stuff that nobody else probably remembers. It does help me too to meet someone else here who feels the same.
Thats what im like especially when on ny own every evening i start dwelling on stuff i have made some stupid massive mistakes and feel ashamed but going over and over it will not do anythingit just brings me down so i start beating my self up but i do write feelings down and write about the thing i worry about and try and put a postitive aspect on it and remember other peoples advice they have gave and write it down and read over it i have learnt from it but hate myself for being so stupid and doing it its hard when have autism even more to just forget
Not only have I made massive mistakes, but I am also a perfectionist. Are you?
I hate it when things go wrong or if i screw up and i do like things being done a certain way and time etc and get anxious if its not i just wish i could forget this one particular thing as it is something i did in the heat of the moment and totally out of character for me but i felt under pressure and being autistic i think sometimes people especially men take advantage
I try but it is not easy especially at night when alone and i start to dwell on things and like u beat myself up about them ihave made some stupid massive mistakes which i hate myself for and i cant let it go i know i cant.change it but still dosent take away the guilt or any other emotions and being autistic makes it harder and i try and right down what i feel bad about
Sorry for gap. Had to answer phone. Do you have any hobbies? Classical music helps me level out. Are you feeling particularly bad right now?
I agree people, often men, can take advantage and I end up doing things I regret. I wish I wasn’t so gullible at times!