Adult Aspergers & OCD - family do not understand

I feel very burned out writing this. I have been online and on the phone for 6 hours trying to source help particularly around employment concerns (I am off work due to stress) and explaining to my parents that I'm not in work for legitimate reasons. They think that if other people can cope in the workplace, why can't I? Although this sentiment is expressed through a series of arguments. They think I want to give myself another label and are more worried that I am going to get a bad record at work which will follow me around for the rest of my life. I explained that sensitive details cannot be passed on to other companies as this is illegal. I have been described as intolerant, always 'believing my own lies' and they seem to think I blame their parenting skills. I am so fed up and am terrified of my mental health deteriorating. I am in my 30's and am female. Advice, help and support please would be great. I feel very alone.