Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't quite know how to start really. I have been in a relationship now with a girl for 6 months and she has an autistic son who is now an adult. Her son suddenly left home without warning and set himself up in a flat and has had no contact with his family for over 4 weeks now. Obviously this has left the mother distraught, confused and very lost as to what is going on. My girlfriend has told me that she believes she is also autistic and with her son leaving suddenly it has left a huge hole in her life. I'm trying to deal with a number of things at the moment but my main priority is to my girlfriend who i am trying to support and help. I'm just wondering what her next steps should be in regaining communication with her son. Thanks for listening and any advice would be very grateful.
I can't help with your question, but is your girlfriend getting any help from her doctor? A loss like this can have a huge impact on your mental wellbeing.
No she isn't :(, i keep mentioning to her that she needs to talk to someone but she seams reluctant to. I will try and suggest things and steer her into seeing someone. she has been going through what seams like a grieving period. Her and her son have been joined at the hip and done everything together for 18 years. She has needed him as much as he has needed her, i can see why he has done what he has because he needs to do what he wants in life and not lead his mums life. I keep overthinking things and its not doing me any good, She says that she doesn't know what she is if she is not a mother, she doesn't know how to be anyone else. We have become a lot closer since her son has gone, she says that she feels more free and can do more things with me.... she is acting very differently and out of character but because i haven't known her for that long am i just reading into things a lot more.