geeeeh i give up!

Wow his teacher is so on the ball its unreal!,we have a home school diary so i decided to ask teacher why she thought he was on the spectrum in it.

I am no expert in diagnosing autism but having worked with a few autistic children there are a few similarties i have noticed with your son.

He responds very well to a visual timetable which he follows to the T,he will often remind me if its not been changed.

He is strict with himself in following the school rules and will always do exactly what he is told and completes work without a fuss.

He takes things very literally,he demonstrates a lack of eye contact when speaking to someone.

Lewis often does not show emotions,i sometimes notice he makes an anxious face when asked to improve or do more work where i will ask if he needs help or needs to take a minute but he will often say im fine.

She did say socailly he does play with other children.

and that basically was it.

Your child sounds the same as mine ,he done his best to hide away at school and avoided everything so he didn't av to speak,but at home he was attacking everyone and hitting me that much so I wouldn't take him to school,he's only six and now hasn't attended schl since October I allowed camps to come in my home every morn and there seen what the problem was and started a autism asses next week I get the discussion ,what I tryin to say school couldn't see a problem ,and made me feel like a was a useless mother when I got intouch with amps there told me this is common kids can't cope with school sometimes and just shut down. And become that quiet ,tht I believe teachers over look,,but the minute he came out school he would kick off wrap his self around lampposts etc run across roads scratch bite when I would try hold hand,i have 5kids and  and I new i couldn't parent this child the way I did the others,I was right

Hopefully the head and deputy will have seen that he has a problem and that you weren't at fault. Perhaps they'll take it more seriously after that?

P.S. I was always the goalie at school, never good enough to make the team. I never understood why at the time but am now realising that I may have a touch of dyspraxia and was also never in the social in-crowd of the good players.

Solo meltdown,he started before we left the house because he could not find a goalie glove,screamed all the way to school and all the way through the playground and refused to go into school,was that loud it brought the head teacher and the deputy out,as it was only ten past eight and we were on the way through the playground to breakfast club there is not a soul around.

mumof4boys772 said:

he was having a bit of a screaming match in the playground on the way into breakfast club,it ended up with the head and the deputy head there and the head said to the deputy head we dont see this at school and this was all because he couldnt find a goalie glove.

Was there someone on the other side in the screaming match? Or, was it a solo meltdown?

Thanks recombined thats my problem by the time i get somewehere i forget half of what i was supposed to ask. xx

Yes, I think that it sounds like the teacher could be really helpful for your S.If she has come across children on the spectrum before then she will have useful experience.

- Try and make friends with him/her and

- try and listen to what she has to say

- try and have a proper discussion with her about your S.You could ask her what they mean by traits.

- Try and write down some of the things she says.

Most teachers like to work with the parents rather than having to fight them so she is likely to appreciate you going to her and asking for more co-operation and help.

When i was speaking to teacher on parents evening and she said to me about my son being on the spectrum i diddnt say anything i carried on talking because i wanted to get most things off my chest.

Should i go back in and ask the teacher why she suspects hes on the spectrum? and ask if shes willing to talk to the peadatrician? because the peadatrician has had no info off school at all to back up what i have been saying.

Thanks recombined and yorshirelass,i think i will phone the council up and see what they can do for us xx

Why dont school get what we get recombined? why is he not like this at school? for the first time the other day school actually saw a little taster of what he is like,he was having a bit of a screaming match in the playground on the way into breakfast club,it ended up with the head and the deputy head there and the head said to the deputy head we dont see this at school and this was all because he couldnt find a goalie glove.

mumof4boys772 said:

I wouldnt get involved with socail services,my son will be ok we are the ones that wont be though, what can the local council do?

1) If something happens to you then who will look after your son? It is not in anyone's interest to let it get to that point.

2) If your son keeps going the way that he is then he will end up in trouble.

The council employ people to help people in your situation. It is in everyone's interest to keep you all in one piece as a family and for you to get the healthcare you need and for your son to get some more help with the problems that he is at the centre of.

They also have responsibilities for people with disabilities - autism is a disability and it is recognised that we (autistic people like me!) need an extra hand up in some situations.

Please give them a chance to help you.

The headteacher also said she is going to get the occupational therapist in to do a sensory test, hes had specail hearing aids fitted by the audiologist to hopefully reduce certain noises,so hopefully we will get there.

I am trying to pull my finger out, i have stopped gamling for over a week now,i am trying to sort my debts out, i have soprted my son a visual time table out and a socail story about violence,i just need to know what to do next in order to help him.

I wouldnt get involved with socail services,my son will be ok we are the ones that wont be though, what can the local council do?

MO4B

Have you tried asking social services at your local council for help? I know this may be hard but I am afraid for your son, yourself and your husband. They are responsible for protecting children and vulnerable people from the sort of life that you are going through.

I also have to say i know i am depressed through the situation we are in,i have been for a longtime,the head teacher said to me the other day if your anxious it make make him anxious, i said i wouldnt be anxious if it werent for him, because of the constant meltdowns, the other night he had a huge meltdown because i bought him a new coat.  They dont see all this at school,at school hes behaved.

I really need to sort myself out,ive needed an op for around 3 years and i diddnt have it done, i was supposed to go to the hospital for something else,i diddnt go and i feel so god dammed tired all the time with no motivation what so ever.

I have stopped recombined and just trying to sort my debts out,it was just my way of trying to cope,not good i admit.

We have the speech therapist,the peadatrician and the audiologist,so we do not get any help,just a go talk to people and walk away,i really dont think people understand the gravity of how he is.

This morning he was punching me,pulling my haif,scratching,kicking and screaming,i had to restrain him, im just more worried about my partner who is not supposed to have any stress.

MO4B,

I've read some of your latest posts and my heart goes out to you. What agencies have you got involved to help with supporting you through all of your troubles? It seems to me that you need more practical help. Have you spoken to your GP about your gambling etc? The first step to getting this sorted is to admit that you have a problem and to ask for help.

Thats why i rant on here a lot lol,its good that shes noticed all this though i must admit. xx

It's hard to get your head around. It's ok to sound off. Sometimes talking about things helps. 

I hope your son gets the help he needs.