Please see the NAS information here, which explains how and why a child on the spectrum can exhibit different behaviours between school and home (can also apply to other places outside of the home):
Please see the NAS information here, which explains how and why a child on the spectrum can exhibit different behaviours between school and home (can also apply to other places outside of the home):
My adopted daughter is six. She shows all signs of PDA that also mirror attachment issues. She is being assessed for the latter through post adoption funding. I want her assessed by ENC for PDA but paediatrician who raised it as response to my list of symptoms has not seemed to grasp its necessity.She doesn't present with other ASD traits. As she responds differently at school its hard to validate the expense. But ENC appear to have closed their waiting list.where next and how much does it cost privately? thx all.
My 15 year old daughter behaves like a 'normal' teen at home, she suffers social anxiety at school and is unable to sustain relationships with peers, which causes great distress -Behavours such as self harming and talking of suicide. She has managed to sit 7 national 5's (Scottish equivalent to GCSE's) and has coped well with limited support. She has been at CAMHS for several weeks and they're now suggesting ASD, which I can now see why.
Our concern is what are the benefits of getting a late diagnosis?
All we can see are negatives: labelling, stigma and limitations being placed on her if she goes ahead with this. We've let her know it's her decision and at the moment she's adamant she doesn't want this. We want to know the benefits for her, we've been told she'll get a free laptop for university!!! Is that it? I want her decision to be an informed one yet at the moment I can't disagree with what she says.....Please help!
This looks like the new page for the topic www.autism.org.uk/.../school-home.aspx
Hi I have tried both links but they don't work for me. Is there another link i can use to read it please? Thanks
Hiya!
I haven't been officially diagnosed, but though a lot of research and doing various tests online I am quite certain I have a form of aspergers syndrome. I have always been quite critical of myself, but since I have found what it is that makes me feel so different i actually feel happier. At the age of 25 I am so glad to now know I am not mad, but have a brain which works differently from the norm :) It would be great to speak to others who are going through a new diagnosis/discovery,
Speak soon!
We get bad behavoiur at home and perfect behaviour at school, theres issues with speach and being a good 2 years behind where she should be at school but nothing with bahaviour , is this type of behaviour ASD related?
Ok, so here it is...
Need a referral for my young person-my local authority clinical commissioning group won't approve an NHS funded referral. CHAMHS can't specify PDA as it's not recognised in my LA ( because it's not listed in ICD10 )The reason the CCG have refused is that there is "insufficient clinical evidence to support the request for refferal" Supplied OT, SaLT, EP & School reports... What the hell else is needed ?! GP of no use. Suggestions ??
Thank you I will do although I have rung and I've not been offered that before is it a different number thank you
I would really appreciate some advice please my son now aged 13 has been a quirky complex boy since day one I started going to camhs about 5 years ago when I really thought he was asd/aspergers - extreme anxiety he didn't like change lots of sensory issues no friend really struggled making friends watched the same programme on television a tic cannot sleep meltdowns school refuser etc... I recently after a very long wait had an ADOS assessment where a nurse took boy into room when nurse approached us he was very friendly shook my hand and boys hand made boy feel at ease and I seen a junior physcologist I had to give all information from birth delayed walker 20 months no speech until 3 3/4 very rigid in his thoughts that took 2 hours - I had to go back a month later where I seen same nurse I thought he was quite dour from first meeting not as friendly as he'd been they said this was a difficult one and an extremely complex child and that they didn't have a definitive answer and they promised I would definitely know for sure in 3 weeks - today I asked to speak to him because it was 6 weeks and I'd heard nothing - when he came out again very dour and not friendly he didn't say hello to the boy either so unlike the first meeting where he reeled boy in making him comfy so eye contact would be used - he said to me I spoke to other autism specialist and we don't think he is asd - however we think he has scd social communication disorder - although boy does have some traits of this I said what about all his other traits anxiety sensory .... He said to me not all anxiety is asd related I said I would be appealing he said you can do what you like - I had to walk out I am absolutely in bits cos I actually thought I was gonna get this diagnosis today for asd and I'm almost back at square one - I am mentally worn out my hair falling out given myself ibs from all the stress and I've had to give up work to care for him when at 13 they are normally starting to learn about life and start doing stuff for themselves as my older children have done please help and sorry for long post kind regards
Hi clairethomas,
If you are using the link at the start of this thread then it is an old one that no longer works. This is the link to information about behaviour on our website http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/common-questions-answered/different-behaviour-between-school-and-home.aspx This is about the differences in behaviour at school and home. I hope this helps you but if not please don't hesitate to contact us 
Sofie Mod
Hi, I clicked the link you have provided above to explain why behaviours are different at home and school but it came up as an error page. Is there any other way I can access that information please?
Also I have a concern I am hoping another parent can help me with. My child has Sensory Processing Disorder (dysregulation) and I'm told ASD as well although he hasn't had his detailed assessment yet. He is 13, has been what I would describe as 'odd',quirky all his life and is prone to roaring meltdowns with violence and a default setting to always feeling under attack, and he never is, which makes home life difficult. I have 2 other children both girls one a year older and the other his twin.
Lately we have adopted stragegies that have brought more calm to the house although some may say we're indulging him which is probably true just to get him to a point where he feels safe and can start to think about self regulating, which for him is extremely difficult, life must seem a real strain to him :-( He starts OT at the end of this month I am told.
Lately he won't tidy his room, brush his teeth, wear his retainer, hang up his uniform after school. He gets really upset when I ask him to do these things as if it's for my benefit. He gets up every morning to do his homework at 630, he won't do it the night before but he feels he has to complete it even if he has been sick and there's no negotiating with him. If I challenge him or even offer to help him, which I'm always happy to do, with any of the above he gets really agitated, which can lead to a meltdown if I'm not careful.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated x
Hi Red45,
I'm sorry that you are having problems getting appropriate support and a diagnosis for your son. In terms of behavioural concerns, we have a section on behavioural strategies http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx that may be worth looking at. If you need support on a more professional level, then I would suggest using our Autism Services Directory http://www.autism.org.uk/directory.aspx where you can find services that are near to you. We also have a helpline that you can contact for further support http://www.autism.org.uk/our-services/advice-and-information-services/autism-helpline/how-to-contact-us.aspx I hope that this helps you in some way but if you require further support please do not hesitate to contact us.
hi, I need help desperately , my 7 yr old son is under an assessment centre but no diagnosis as yet !!! As they've informed us that he's a complex case !!!! However his behaviour at home is rude, aggressive, attitude, etc but at school he follows the rules !!! We have no bad reports from school well haven't in infants as he's just started year 3 !!! hes also been diagnosed with ODD pls pls help me any pointers x
My son's school admit he is quirky but do not seem to recognise any other issues. I am finding this hard to accept as we see extreme behavioural issues at home and continuous demand avoidance. Also he is 6 in March and is not writing. I am very concerned as he goes into year 1 in September.
Hi, I'm hoping you can all help. For the past 18 months we have been having an ongoing battle with our sons school because of his behaviour. They have now announced that some of his behaviour is on the Autistic scale, however we our having a tough time getting out head around this. After research I have a tendency to agree but wher i am struggling is because of how quickly his moods change. He is 6 years old and we are aware that he can be challenging, but we can normally calm him down. Where the difficulty is coming is at school he appears to turn into the devil. Kicking teachers etc and throwing chairs. This is behaviour he has never displayed at home. I was just after finding out the experiences of other parents because after reading the linked article it would appear as though it should be the other way.
I am new to the forum and the first post I saw was this one. This describes my son. His reception teacher wouls not support me and said that he was above national expectations for social development. Within 3 weeks of moving to yr 1 his difficulties were observed and the school were very concerned with the reports previously given. He is now in year 4 and just received his diagnosis. His psychologist mentioned that his escalating behaviour at home but not at school may be due to event before or during school and the 1-5 cards or traffic lights seem like the answer. I now have fortnightly meetings with his teacher as due to his difficulties with fine motor skills he is over a year behind in school. I will be suggesting this for at school. Thank you
sorry am new here and concerned my son is showing trades od asd. The problem i have is that he displays different behaviour at home than he does at school. the school are gettin him help for dxylis (sorry) but i have ask a few times about his behaiour in school an it never simes to be the same it can be at home. he is well behaved in school an plays well with his friends but he has been to playschool til now with thoughs same boys. i feel am rambling but he simes different at home he only lets me help him with homework an shoes etc. not his daddy even grand parents. i have to do buttons and laces for him he is 8 years old, he is my eldest but i sime to have to do more for him than my other children. i have only started to get him tested for his behaviour this year but am getting total lost i done an asd test with the school my reasults came bk that it was likely that my son has asd but his teachers result showed unlikey am so confused. he has bad meltdowns with me but if he is in bad humour anywere else he doesnt talk please can anyone help me all i want to no is how to help keep him from getting so wrked up
