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Relationship/friend advice

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Hi I’m new to relationships and I currently have a girlfriend. 

I was wanting to know other peoples views to the following questions.

  1. Is it ok to hug a female friend and work colleague?
  2. is it ok to have dinner at their house?
  3. Is it ok to bring a small gift to the dinner?

  • I'd say 'yes' to all three provided it's what she wants, otherwise no. The only way to know is ask.

    Is the work colleague different from the girl-friend btw? If so, check with your girl-friend. It wouldn't bother me any for my husband to eat with, or give a 'thank you' gift of wine or flowers to,  or hug a colleague, but some folks get a bit jealous for reasons best known to themselves. Your girl-friend will be the best authority on that. I'd ask her advice.

  • Yes, sorry, I meant continue hugging people if you already hug those people and they see it as normal behaviour.  Hugging random people is guaranteed to get you a stern word at the least. Smiley

  • If someone invites you to their house for a meal, it’s customary to bring a bottle of wine or something. No one would be mad if you forgot. And you can always return the favour sometime, which I’m sure they would enjoy.

    As for hugging friends, I would ask first. 
    I would not hug a colleague unless they were also a friend. 

  • Just live your life.  You are overthinking things.

    If you are a person that hugs people, then continue hugging people, whether its female friend or collegaue is irrelevant.  Same with going to peoples houses for dinner.  As for bringing a gift to a dinner, ie, a bottle of wine, then yes, that would be normal behaviour.

    If your girlfriend has issue with you doing any of that, she probably isn't the right one for you.

  • I won’t bring a gift incase it gives the wrong impression. I’m just unsure what to do. I don’t want it looking bad with my girlfriend. I’ve told her about the dinner I am having. Im not sure of the social niceties I’m supposed to be giving at the right time. I don’t know how else to explain it right now.