Published on 12, July, 2020
Can autistic people have a tendency to cut other people out of their lives if they negatively impact their autistic tendencies (and so appearing very hardhearted to outside observers) . Does this result from black/white thinking, over emphasis of rules and a strong need to have people in their lives who are predictable and minimise uncertainty in their own lives.
I had to learn this as a necessary survival skill. And only as a final straw. It's rare that it's happened. My instinct is to continually give someone a chance. I'm perpetually misunderstood, It would be incredible to be helped through a complexity, so my bias - or unchecked assumption - is that others feel the same. But this is not the case. Ghosting or stonewalling someone is normal immature NT behaviour in my experience.