Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
I have a beautiful one year old I am really concerned about, in particular with his lack of imitation, babbling and excitement.
I get lulled into thinking he's ok because he is very capable physically, he is very dextrous, patient and determined. He loves toys, he just doesn't want to share the game with me. He doesn't ever show excitement that isn't about strong physical stimulation, or about recognising a familiar pattern. He does have good eye contact but the only time I feel he's 'there' behind his eyes is when I'm singing a song he recognises and the second I stop it switches off. He does make sounds but to express his state, he doesn't copy any sounds or gestures and I am terrified he won't ever learn to talk.
Worst of all I find it terribly hard work being with him because there's no back and forth which makes me feel I may as well not be there and I find it desperately hard not to just withdraw. I crowbar myself into his games, which he tolerates but does not exactly share, or I leave him to it. If I leave the room, he probably will too but not seemingly to find me, just to move on to another thing he likes to do - climb stairs, open the washer door andbite the mouldy part (sigh...)
I know any suggestion that vaccines are a cause will incense a lot of people who feel this is blaming. But this is not about you, it is my own observation of my own child and there was a definite change. This was not even the MMR, which he's not had as he's not quite one, but after his 4 month boosters, which we gave him at 6 months because he'd been ill. After the booster he stopped sleeping through the night, which he had from 4.5months. He also stopped babbling, although he had been a very chatty baby and people had commented on how like his mother he was. Although he had copied me poking out my tongue at only a few days old, he stopped imitating us completely.
Watching videos of him at 4-5 months is heartbreaking. He is 'chatting' all the time, waving his hands with excitement. It feels like he's turned from a typical, chatty baby into a busy, unnaturally calm robot. My heart is breaking. I don't want to wait and see, I need to know what this means. I need to know if there is anything I can do to bring him into the world of sociability.
Please let me know if any of this seems familiar and if it does, what is the best way to support him, in particular with learning to talk. Thank you.
AgnoisedMummy said:Having looked at the level of aluminium in the vaccines he received, I found this was well above the recommended daily safety limits.
Having looked at the level of aluminium in the vaccines he received, I found this was well above the recommended daily safety limits.
Says who?
Are you an analytical chemist?
Have you obtained a sample of the actual dose of vaccine given to your child and analysed it, or had it analysed, for aluminium levels?
Or are you basing your opinions on information found on websites that you can not verify to be true?
You say you've looked for research on whether vaccines contribute to autism and found only comprised or otherwise questionable research.
Do you have access to pubmed, or other academic research databases?
No one is saying that the observations you report about your child's regression are not true.
But have you researched the typical development of autistic traits in children whether they have been given vaccines or not?
You say you seek advice on how to best support your child.
But do you not think that the first step in doing that is to understand the truth of your child's possible condition?
I suggest you read the NAS position on the supposed link between vaccines and autism.
And ask yourself, what do the NAS have to gain from holding that position?
We all, parent or not, can understand the position you find yourself in - and the wish to find answers - but don't let your agony cloud your judgement, and please understand that whilst we may say things you don't want hear, we say them because they will help you to help you son.
Only by truly understanding his possible condition and it's true causes can you truly help him.
It is clear, by the very fact that you are asking these questions that you have a great deal of love for him, but don't let that love blind you to the truth.
And, I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I have Asperger's, that's one of the things we do.
And, incidentaly, I'm 39, too old to have had the MMR jab.