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What’s the point

Whats-His-Face

im seriously considering taking my life, I can’t go to work cos I don’t function well in work environment but I can’t afford not to. I’m on esa support but it’s not enough and I can’t get pip cos they don’t believe my issues. I’m causing issues for others and I’m a burden on family who also can’t afford to keep me so what’s the point! I have no quality of life and I’m ruining everyone else’s so why carry on

  • Hi, I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling like this. I've been in the place similar to where you are now, where I didn't see the point in carrying on and felt that everyone else would be better off without me. But it got better and I'm glad that I'm still here to tell the tale! It seems that you may be depressed and I really think that it would be wise for you to speak to your GP or other appropriate healthcare provider about this as they will be able to support you through this difficult time and signpost you to other services that will also be able to support you. Please see the following link with UK wide advice on who to contact for mental health issues and/or emergencies.

    https://www.nhs.uk/using-the-nhs/nhs-services/mental-health-services/dealing-with-a-mental-health-crisis-or-emergency/

  • Thank you all for the kind words and for showing concern, I’m ok, I’m just so tired of everything being a struggle all the time. I don’t want to live my life anymore but i’d Never take my life, I just think about doing it sometimes. 

  • Please follow the moderator's advice - you deserve to be happy and there are people and organisations who can help you. I've heard great things about The Samaritans - try giving them a call. 

  • in reply to Whats-His-Face

    They can get things moving for you - they are the key-holders into the mental health / social support systems which may be your best hope to use as a safety net - they can get you in front of people who CAN help you.   

    You need to play nice to engage their assistance.   They can't help someone who can't be helped.

  • in reply to Whats-His-Face

    It could help you start to feel better and that's more important. I've felt how you feel and it's awful. Please go see the gp first. Take each day as a step

  • in reply to Plastic

    No, don’t see the point. It won’t help my financial and living situation

  • Have you said all this to your GP?   

  • in reply to Whats-His-Face

    You write well. You can definitely put down your thoughts clearly. I hope you can find some support that can help you find what you need to support yourself. 

  • in reply to Robert124

    Not really good at anything, I enjoy gaming, tried to make a living from it and failed

  • in reply to NAS63286

    The issue with that is it doesn’t put money in my pocket, roof over my head nor will it ease the burden I’m putting on others

  • You are getting as bad as me.  Sorry that I'm not much positive help.  You can always hope your lottery numbers come up.

    A long time ago I was advised,  find out what you're good at or you enjoy doing. Then find someone to pay you for doing it.

  • in reply to Whats-His-Face

    Start filling your life with things or activities you feel positive about. Doesn't matter how small. I tell my son to fill his life with positive actions. 

  • in reply to NAS63286

    Don’t think it makes a difference what the job is, it’s the act of actually working that’s an issue, I can’t even do life jobs, hygiene, cleaning, eating etc

  • Can you find a job/activity you feel positive doing? I have an autistic son and he's started delivering pamphlets. He gets out in the daylight, walks for hours and earns some money.  When you find a job you feel ok doing then you can spend time developing your creative self. I don't do well in busy work environments and I'm not even on the spectrum. Good luck and be patient with yourself.You're not alone.