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Getting Angry

Molbelf
over 6 years ago

Hi,

I am not certain that this is the best section for this but I have a few questions and would be really appreciative if someone could help? I am 20 years old and have recently been assessed for autism and I am awaiting their decision. 

Sometimes I can become really angry really quickly. I feel as though I lose control and want to hit something and want to scream. I can cry, lie on the floor, curl up and become very very frustrated. They have been worse recently. When they happen I hate it and I feel guilty after but at the time I am so wrapped up in what is happening and really feel like I can't come out of it. I know this behaviour is unacceptable. So my questions are:

  • Do people with autism have episodes like this or is this just me not being able to control myself?
  • If anyone else does have them, what do you do to help you come out of the situation and calm down?

Thank you so much for reading my questions, I really hope that someone can help enlighten me.

Thank you :)

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  • 8 months ago

    Yes, my husband is like that.  It all started same as what you feel, then it progressed by banging tables, breaking objects,  shouting extremely loud now it is at the stage where he is beating me ( his wife who is always by his sides nomatter what).

    He is 50 years old now you are younger please get help now.  My husband's parents were very hard on him, they always blame him for stuff.  They never listened to him. 

  • 8 months ago in reply to NAS87487

    Forgive me for saying this, but the fact that your husband is autistic, gets angry, and has been treated harshly by his parents, is no excuse for him using you as a punchbag. 

    There are plenty of autists on these forums who struggle with anger issues, and I'm fairly certain that they would be in agreement that nothing gives your husband the right to beat you.

    If you have the space for one, perhaps your husband could consider taking his anger out on an actual punching bag, rather than you, his wife.

    Whilst I admire you greatly for sticking with your husband and wanting to support him, as an autistic person there is no way I would tolerate someone being physically aggressive with me, even if they didn't intend to be. The only exception would possibly be if a person was suffering from Dementia/Altzheimer's and was no longer of sound mind.

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  • 8 months ago in reply to NAS87487

    Forgive me for saying this, but the fact that your husband is autistic, gets angry, and has been treated harshly by his parents, is no excuse for him using you as a punchbag. 

    There are plenty of autists on these forums who struggle with anger issues, and I'm fairly certain that they would be in agreement that nothing gives your husband the right to beat you.

    If you have the space for one, perhaps your husband could consider taking his anger out on an actual punching bag, rather than you, his wife.

    Whilst I admire you greatly for sticking with your husband and wanting to support him, as an autistic person there is no way I would tolerate someone being physically aggressive with me, even if they didn't intend to be. The only exception would possibly be if a person was suffering from Dementia/Altzheimer's and was no longer of sound mind.

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