advice on moving to a highly populated city for a new job

I am at a crossroads in my life as I have had a chance of moving to a new job with a healthy bump in my salary (nearly double if what I am currently on). I would really like to go for this opening but the job is located in central london and I have many concerns with regards to coping with the amount of people around me at all times and the living situation there.

I'd probably say go for it, you're more likely to regret not taking the opportunity than you are to regret giving it a chance.

I really don't like living with other people as I really like my own space but the cost to rent a one bedroom flat is insanely expensive (like £1300 per month) but in contrast the rent for sharing a house with 2-3 other people greatly varies but tends to be around £550-850 per month depening on condition and area. has anyone ever had experience house sharing with aspergers at all? what was your experience like? 

It really depends on your housemates and also the place you live, ideally you want all en-suite bathrooms as it means that the shared space is a communal area and kitchen, makes things a lot easier although it does push the price up somewhat. The other thing is the people, they need to be similar in expectations such as cleanliness, levels of noise (you won't get silence), probably will want to socialise somewhat, the rules for bringing people back etc. The other thing to think about is that by moving 20-30 minutes further out you can save a lot of money, potentially live in a much nicer area, have more space and still be really close to everything.

also, what kind of experience has anyone had when moving to a big city solo? every time I think of a scenario that may or may not happen I keep convincing myself not to go. 

It depends on how social you can be, if the work has a good social atmosphere then that helps, but London being a huge metropolitan city it's easy to find people with shared interests, groups, clubs, activities etc which will help you meet new people.

also, does anyone have any experience moving to another company outside of your immediate county into a high position role solo? I know nearly all of my colleagues at my current job so i feel relatively comfortable around them now, just the thought of moving to somewhere else and needing to familiarise myself with new people all over again seems really daunting!!

It will depend on how many people, what level of oversight you need to give them. I won't lie it will be daunting, you might find the first month or two incredibly tiring, you will need to socialise with them to a level if you want it to work. 

all of these uncertanties are really putting me off...

I can understand why, write the positives down, write the negatives down, score them, see which side wins. Don't forget to score in the satisfaction of making it work and the disappointment of not doing it.

some other information, im 29 male, live on my own and has aspergers syndrome (recently doagnosed)

Then I have to say get on Tinder when you get down there, a great way to meet new people, there are several hundred thousand woman on it in London, force yourself to go on a few dates, meet some people, make friends, have some fun, the advantage of being able to message in text form to start with helps with Aspergers, we find it difficult to say the hello in person in a bar, as text it's much easier, who knows by the time you go for a drink with her at the weekend you'll already feel like you know eachother.

I have Asperger's, I force myself to step outside of my comfort zone, sometimes it's very tiring, burns me out, but I'm in a better place because of it and I'd generally recommend to others that they do it as well.

I am at a crossroads in my life as I have had a chance of moving to a new job with a healthy bump in my salary (nearly double if what I am currently on). I would really like to go for this opening but the job is located in central london and I have many concerns with regards to coping with the amount of people around me at all times and the living situation there.

I'd probably say go for it, you're more likely to regret not taking the opportunity than you are to regret giving it a chance.

I really don't like living with other people as I really like my own space but the cost to rent a one bedroom flat is insanely expensive (like £1300 per month) but in contrast the rent for sharing a house with 2-3 other people greatly varies but tends to be around £550-850 per month depening on condition and area. has anyone ever had experience house sharing with aspergers at all? what was your experience like? 

It really depends on your housemates and also the place you live, ideally you want all en-suite bathrooms as it means that the shared space is a communal area and kitchen, makes things a lot easier although it does push the price up somewhat. The other thing is the people, they need to be similar in expectations such as cleanliness, levels of noise (you won't get silence), probably will want to socialise somewhat, the rules for bringing people back etc. The other thing to think about is that by moving 20-30 minutes further out you can save a lot of money, potentially live in a much nicer area, have more space and still be really close to everything.

also, what kind of experience has anyone had when moving to a big city solo? every time I think of a scenario that may or may not happen I keep convincing myself not to go. 

It depends on how social you can be, if the work has a good social atmosphere then that helps, but London being a huge metropolitan city it's easy to find people with shared interests, groups, clubs, activities etc which will help you meet new people.

also, does anyone have any experience moving to another company outside of your immediate county into a high position role solo? I know nearly all of my colleagues at my current job so i feel relatively comfortable around them now, just the thought of moving to somewhere else and needing to familiarise myself with new people all over again seems really daunting!!

It will depend on how many people, what level of oversight you need to give them. I won't lie it will be daunting, you might find the first month or two incredibly tiring, you will need to socialise with them to a level if you want it to work. 

all of these uncertanties are really putting me off...

I can understand why, write the positives down, write the negatives down, score them, see which side wins. Don't forget to score in the satisfaction of making it work and the disappointment of not doing it.

some other information, im 29 male, live on my own and has aspergers syndrome (recently doagnosed)

Then I have to say get on Tinder when you get down there, a great way to meet new people, there are several hundred thousand woman on it in London, force yourself to go on a few dates, meet some people, make friends, have some fun, the advantage of being able to message in text form to start with helps with Aspergers, we find it difficult to say the hello in person in a bar, as text it's much easier, who knows by the time you go for a drink with her at the weekend you'll already feel like you know eachother.

I have Asperger's, I force myself to step outside of my comfort zone, sometimes it's very tiring, burns me out, but I'm in a better place because of it and I'd generally recommend to others that they do it as well.