Talking

People have trouble hearing me because my voice can be low-toned.  When people ask me to speak up, I tend to react defensively as if its a personal atttack.  How should I react, and how do I practice speaking up?

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  • Would in my case, I've got real problems with pitch. Cannot seem to get it right for the situation. I tend to engage voice in a random way. If I'm stressed it doesn't come out the way I expect, sometimes quite unintelligible.

    With autistic spectrum you don't get the extensive practice in social interaction that would help you judge pitch. Or for that matter speed of delivery. You are likely to be in your own company a lot of the time which gives little practice in speaking up.

    Also you may have difficulty delivering in a manner or fashion appropriate to whom you are talking to, eg. managers, children, police,

    You can also end up apologising too much.

    My solution, not always practised is to assess my environment, and maybe even risk a few ermm or ahem sounds to see how they feel. Most people hesitate and interrupt what they are saying with umms and errs. You will probably find from an autistic spectrum perspective words shoot out readily. So you can afford to take your time, pause, experiment with an introductory phrase, like "perhaps if I put it like this" or in my opinion", pause to see the effect, then carry on.

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  • Would in my case, I've got real problems with pitch. Cannot seem to get it right for the situation. I tend to engage voice in a random way. If I'm stressed it doesn't come out the way I expect, sometimes quite unintelligible.

    With autistic spectrum you don't get the extensive practice in social interaction that would help you judge pitch. Or for that matter speed of delivery. You are likely to be in your own company a lot of the time which gives little practice in speaking up.

    Also you may have difficulty delivering in a manner or fashion appropriate to whom you are talking to, eg. managers, children, police,

    You can also end up apologising too much.

    My solution, not always practised is to assess my environment, and maybe even risk a few ermm or ahem sounds to see how they feel. Most people hesitate and interrupt what they are saying with umms and errs. You will probably find from an autistic spectrum perspective words shoot out readily. So you can afford to take your time, pause, experiment with an introductory phrase, like "perhaps if I put it like this" or in my opinion", pause to see the effect, then carry on.

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