Are autistic people nice people?

I had a colleague with Asperger Syndrom,  he always smiled. Especially when talking to me. I don't know if it was niceness or just his communication style, maybe he smiled to me, because with me he could discuss things that matter to him and I never bullied him etc. He told me his diagnosis,  I shared mine with him (the one i had at that time) to me he was nice, and "like me". But others dudnt like him and avoided having break with him.

I don't think it's any different to allistic people. Some autistic people will be nice, others won't be.

I do think some nice autistic people are probably misunderstood though and possibly interpreted as rude or not nice.

I think you can get bad apples in every bunch and i`d rarely except any excuse for being an A`hole in general.

But what I will say is my social awkwardness and avoidance which makes me for the most part quiet and apprehensive to make any initial efforts can give the wrong impression. And most people seem quick to label you as cold, unfriendly and unapproachable. Which couldnt be further from the truth. 

I think it is misleading to make sweeping generalisations.

I expect there are nice and not so nice people.

Since social interactions can be prone to misunderstandings it is also possible to have nice people fall out. Stress, burnout, overload and lack of sleep limit capacity too. What people would like and what actually happens might not be the same.

But I think, in general, people who have struggled are more sympathetic to others who are also struggling.

I suspect empathy is correlated with perceived niceness, but actions also matter.

As with anyone though, you have to have something in common and a similar outlook to get along at more than at superficial level.

Autistic people need to systematize relationships. If you want me to be kind, then tell me you want me to be kind. I can probably think if ways to be kind, but you may initially want to suggest sensible ways to be kind. If I have suitable advance warning, then you could try extending your arms around my body and squeezing. Instinct probably just prompts return of the gesture.

If I talk like this in public, the people with the vestigial primate network thing in their brains may be less receptive though. Silly monkeys!

If something is labelled it is perceived through a societal norm. Really there should be no reason to suspect anyone is autistic unless they tell you themselves in person. The autistic people I have met and spoken to since my diagnosis has changed my view, because there was no way I would have known this otherwise eating them on the street. There are extremes in patterns and behaviours just as there are in neurotypical people which make hem stand out. 

I suspect now several people who were friends in my life of being autistic (on the mild side of public scrutiny) they all had one thing in common that was they had difficulty being accepted by others and in some ways this often lead their behaviour to be perceived as erratic. Probably no fault of their own.

In my view asd can lead people to either viewed as quiet and with drawn or over giving in some situations. Overgiving particularly to strangers is something I avoid ever doing now, But I did value some of the relationships with those I overgave to in the short term as being the most memorable Bing too nice is a kind of over giving which socially people don’t seem to like unless they understand who you are. But then people can be generous with you but you have no way of giving back on the same level, so a lot of it is about acceptance of people for who they are.

So either too nice or maybe perceived as not nice (due to withdrawing and not displaying socio normal traits).