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Are autistic people nice people?

soboiceland

I’m curious about how autistic people are perceived socially, particularly around ideas like “niceness” and friendliness, which can be quite subjective and culturally defined.

From your own experiences, how do you interpret or experience interactions with autistic people? Do you think differences in communication style affect how autistic people are perceived as “nice” or not?

For those who have autistic friends (or are autistic themselves), what do you value in those friendships? What do you think autistic people often bring to relationships that might be overlooked or misunderstood?

I don't believe I've had autistic friends and don't seek autistic people out as potential friends so I'm curious to know whether other people are the similar.

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  • If something is labelled it is perceived through a societal norm. Really there should be no reason to suspect anyone is autistic unless they tell you themselves in person. The autistic people I have met and spoken to since my diagnosis has changed my view, because there was no way I would have known this otherwise eating them on the street. There are extremes in patterns and behaviours just as there are in neurotypical people which make hem stand out. 

    I suspect now several people who were friends in my life of being autistic (on the mild side of public scrutiny) they all had one thing in common that was they had difficulty being accepted by others and in some ways this often lead their behaviour to be perceived as erratic. Probably no fault of their own.

    In my view asd can lead people to either viewed as quiet and with drawn or over giving in some situations. Overgiving particularly to strangers is something I avoid ever doing now, But I did value some of the relationships with those I overgave to in the short term as being the most memorable Bing too nice is a kind of over giving which socially people don’t seem to like unless they understand who you are. But then people can be generous with you but you have no way of giving back on the same level, so a lot of it is about acceptance of people for who they are.

    So either too nice or maybe perceived as not nice (due to withdrawing and not displaying socio normal traits).

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  • If something is labelled it is perceived through a societal norm. Really there should be no reason to suspect anyone is autistic unless they tell you themselves in person. The autistic people I have met and spoken to since my diagnosis has changed my view, because there was no way I would have known this otherwise eating them on the street. There are extremes in patterns and behaviours just as there are in neurotypical people which make hem stand out. 

    I suspect now several people who were friends in my life of being autistic (on the mild side of public scrutiny) they all had one thing in common that was they had difficulty being accepted by others and in some ways this often lead their behaviour to be perceived as erratic. Probably no fault of their own.

    In my view asd can lead people to either viewed as quiet and with drawn or over giving in some situations. Overgiving particularly to strangers is something I avoid ever doing now, But I did value some of the relationships with those I overgave to in the short term as being the most memorable Bing too nice is a kind of over giving which socially people don’t seem to like unless they understand who you are. But then people can be generous with you but you have no way of giving back on the same level, so a lot of it is about acceptance of people for who they are.

    So either too nice or maybe perceived as not nice (due to withdrawing and not displaying socio normal traits).

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