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Are autistic people nice people?

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I’m curious about how autistic people are perceived socially, particularly around ideas like “niceness” and friendliness, which can be quite subjective and culturally defined.

From your own experiences, how do you interpret or experience interactions with autistic people? Do you think differences in communication style affect how autistic people are perceived as “nice” or not?

For those who have autistic friends (or are autistic themselves), what do you value in those friendships? What do you think autistic people often bring to relationships that might be overlooked or misunderstood?

I don't believe I've had autistic friends and don't seek autistic people out as potential friends so I'm curious to know whether other people are the similar.

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  • I think it is misleading to make sweeping generalisations.

    I expect there are nice and not so nice people.

    Since social interactions can be prone to misunderstandings it is also possible to have nice people fall out. Stress, burnout, overload and lack of sleep limit capacity too. What people would like and what actually happens might not be the same.

    But I think, in general, people who have struggled are more sympathetic to others who are also struggling.

    I suspect empathy is correlated with perceived niceness, but actions also matter.

    As with anyone though, you have to have something in common and a similar outlook to get along at more than at superficial level.

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  • I think it is misleading to make sweeping generalisations.

    I expect there are nice and not so nice people.

    Since social interactions can be prone to misunderstandings it is also possible to have nice people fall out. Stress, burnout, overload and lack of sleep limit capacity too. What people would like and what actually happens might not be the same.

    But I think, in general, people who have struggled are more sympathetic to others who are also struggling.

    I suspect empathy is correlated with perceived niceness, but actions also matter.

    As with anyone though, you have to have something in common and a similar outlook to get along at more than at superficial level.

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