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Chris

Hi 

Recently, during a phone call, a mental health worker suddenly started using a lot more metaphorical language than they normally do. I have spoken to this person before and has never used this much language, I have told him I have autism and I have spoke to him 5 times in the past trying to reach out, I have told him previous about people taken advantage of me before by overwhelming me with indirect language and lies and I become vulnerable, which is why I have been reaching out for support, this is why he has done this on purpose as I was reaching out because people had control over me and he understood that and done the same back this is bullying, and to get away with it all he is now saying it is just there language he uses, I have since rang back the service and now he lied to them saying it’s because I have autism and they can’t work with me because of the language barrier, I understand some indirect language as it’s not hard to match it but the way this person done it was to get a reaction out of me this is leaving me unable to cope as I have no friends or family and this was meant to be my support to help me develop correctly but it’s getting harder and harder the more I ask for help, all my hope has gone and don’t feel safe with anyone anymore 

has anyone else been manipulated by services who are meant to listen and help because they CANNOT get away with this disgusting behaviour 

  • Metaphors are a nightmare…. Similes are ok. Especially metaphors from people you don’t know and are providing a service 

  • in reply to Chris

    I had my 25 yo daughter in the room soon after it happened to 1) talk me down 2) make me behave like a responsible adult under the circumstances (I needed to show her that I could get my sh1t together and deal with it)  

    Have to say that being messed in my head going into a situation and then getting more messed up by it is a challenge.

    I guess that for me having been in the situation where I've "lost it" with other people I could empathise a bit with the other person but still stand up for myself too.

  • in reply to Phased

    And I always think its me, i need to learn how to handle these situations moving forward I like the way you handled it, I let all the issues build up as I just suppress everything but I need to make sure I handle it at the time

  • in reply to kiwipip

    Yes a community mental health team 

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    I’ve gone through PALS now which have really been my lifeline, this is the community mental health team I have to complain about

  • I had some issues with individual mental health practitioners - made me worried about their mental health!

    I e-mailed the service explaining my version of what had happened and asked for the service manager to phone me and then worked from there 

    I told the about my concern for the clinician as I would have expected them, if they weren't feeling so stressed, to have been able to make the adjustments necessary for understanding and communicating with me as an autistic person and not making it a "personal" issue.

    Got offered an appointment with the person who trains them in working with autistic people and so far so good...

  • in reply to Chris

    In professional situations like this people should be speaking in a literal professional language anyway , you should not be left to attempt to “figure it out” that’s not the point of business and services 

  • in reply to Chris

    This sounds awful, and if this ever happened to me I couldn't ever call them again, which is terrible when they are meant to be a service when you need help!
    I don't understand how people can get into things like that and not have any compassion or caring? 5 hours is ridiculous, especially as hold music makes me jumpy. I'm sorry you have not been able to get the help you need, it's really shameful! 

  • Another phone call I had was i was in distress and rang in for support and had to wait 5 hours for a phone call to be told to go and distract yourself, I asked why did you make me wait 5 hours to be told to distract myself they replied and said if your going to be abusive and I’ll put the phone down this led me to saying you shouldn’t be working in this type of job making me feel like this and now they are calling me abusive for abusing me, isn’t this narcissist behaviour and every excuse they have when I bring this up to them is that it’s because I uave autism and we don’t have the resource which is an excuse again