Are most people here just using pm rather than using the forum ?

I never used PMs, and don't feel like it very much, mainly because I feel overwhelmed in some ways, and I may not be good at it (I think).

Please don't be dorry, you didn't  upset me. My pacing is a decades long must be everyday routine otherwise I get meltdowns. I wish you all bast take care 

Sorry, I didn't know what happened to you. I will not delete my account then. I'm much less active here recent months, because I had a crisis again that made me close in a cocon and unable to communicate. The only thing I could do recently was pacing and as it turned out- talking to myself (my husband told me I do it) It affects me in everyday life, so as a result I also almost disappeared from the forum. The only thing that doctors would offer are meds again and I feel like an object of experiments for them. Sorry for rant, I will be lurking from time to time.

I'm very sorry if my recent post upset you, where I asked whether to go or not speak with one family about my experience. I didn't mean to upset anyone and I don't mind any response doesn't matter if it comes from a parent or a child free person. I'm also far from commenting on someone having or not having children wether it's a choice or not.

I'm thinking maybe it's better if I delete my profile although I'm here for quite a long time

It sounds like the downvoting obviously brought you down. I’m sorry to hear that, because the way I look at it, you’ve done a lot of positive on this site. It’s important for us to have a variety of different voices, and the fact that you are younger than most here and not a parent means you have a very unique voice that we need. I hope you can consider that before deleting your account.

On the other hand, breaks can be very necessary, I understand that. I actually took a break from the internet for a few days last week because I was feeling down and I know I’m not going to get any positives out of social media when I’m already in a depressed mindset.

Never use pm.  I prefer an open forum so everyone can contribute. 

I took your quote about not being allowed to use the forum completely literally rather than figuratively as I guess you intended!

Fair enough. I haven't really come across that sort of thing but I have been fairly sporadic in my use of this forum and, as I say, I don't tend to engage too much with the kids posts. I can see why you would be put off doing so if you've had negative responses though. I don't necessarily think that you have to have direct experience of something to offer a view and if someone doesn't like what somebody says they can ignore it rather than being abusive. I get the impression that some people are just looking for the answer that tells them to do what they already want to do anyway.

Like  , I’m open to using PMs on here, but I feel like there’s a little more social pressure with PMs as opposed to the forum. There’s the stress of feeling like I need to respond right away or always respond a certain way. Here on the forum I feel a little more comfortable with just dropping my opinion or thought.

However, I do like the IDEA of PMs. It’d be cool to have a penpal from the UK.

Hi I’m guessing you’re a long time member who will have seen it all. Thanks for your reply. Take care. 

Things the best way I had just wondered why there wasn’t so many people and had assumed it was possibly because they all have their own friends they speak to privately. Apps etc I think by now have their own support network of friends established and that’s why I think they are quiet. I’m probably wrong. I don’t know. Take care

Stuart333 said:

you can change it to let anyone message you. It's in one of the menus.

If you click on your profile pic on the top right and select Settings, it is indeed in here:

Thanks for reminding me.

Yeah I understand and sometimes the pressure to interact or respond when probably most have may other things todo or don’t know what to say or want involved or many positive reasons too. Take care

That’s true

Ohhh! Okay, that makes sense.

You have to change one of the settings for this to work.

By default you have to friend someone  and then you can PM them.

But you can change it to let anyone message you. It's in one of the menus.