Are most people here just using pm rather than using the forum ?

Hi everyone, 

Some interesting conversations on this thread but I'd just like to remind everyone of rule 7 of the Online Community. Rule 7: Be respectful in discussions. Also, please be accepting and open to different opinions and ways of writing or interacting. This helps everyone feel welcome. 

I also would like to add, please let us know at CommunityManager@nas.org.uk if you encounter any trolling, we don't want this on the Online Community! 

Best Wishes,

Katrina Mod

Hey this Jason do like the jaguars or the steelers

Hey this Jason how are you

Thanks Elfilis, I think I understood, but one of the things that puts me off is the idea that moderators can read messages, I can understand that if someone's feeling they're being harrassed and alerts the mods and asks for them to take action, but the thought that they could just randomly read through messages, no I don't think so, that feels invasive. Just because we're ND dosen't mean we should lack privacy.

Where does one go to get PM's? Oh I see you hover over someone profile picture, not somethng that I do very often and not the place where I would of though to look. Where does one go to see if any friend requests are accepted?

I use both - pms and forum. I don't care about the possibility of moderators reading my private messages, I don't mind and I already had some longer interactions with others here. Some of them left which is sad but I accept it, its their decision 

Well....OK....26 ain't exactly a baby age.....but imagine how I feel, having been present on this planet for x2+ the number of years you have been here!  Take the win sister!!

Silent....but present on occasion.  When you popped up on my rader a while back, it made me think = "yea, all is not lost for this place, there is (you) another logical, calm, measured autist who has arrived and is delivering interest and colour....and is sticking around, against the odds!"

I hear you.  I'm ancient, but find it helpful, interesting and useful to hear about the experiences of younger autists too.  Hopefully some of us older folk will also be able to enrich your sense of self and validity too.  You and your feelings are MUCH more important than mine......you will be around longer on this Earth than me now!

Thank you Number, it's nice to see you around as well !

I do hope you stay Elfilis, you are one of my favourite contributors! I like your 3 good things as you are normally playing something in interested in! 

Thanks for your post Ava. I'm relatively new (as in I hadn't started down this rabbit hole at all till the summer) and was wondering about the dynamics. The posts you had in reply have really illuminated the situation. Much like a moth, I just flit between threads that seem the brightest. The creative ones are really wonderful, as are things like 3 good things (though I've only enjoyed reading them for positivity rather than posting myself there).  I don't really PM as my anxiety spikes too much, but I haven't deleted my posts here yet so that's a good sign I'm not feeling too bad despite being tired a lot these days.

You are another nut that I would HATE to see leave here FYI!  You are my type of people Almond.

Mate.....it is hard being "us"!  Stick around if you can.  It makes me happy to read your posts.  You are Golden!

Warmest regards to my favorite bra!!!!

Yours,

Number

Please try not too!  This place will only "reignite" if the right type of folk can de facto restore tolerance/light/friendliness/interest to this place.  You seem to tuck all boxes!

Warm regards to you Elfilis.

You are quite correct in your assumptions Ava (based on my experience(s) here.  A couple of years ago, NAS made a number of fundamental changes here and most of the "regular" folk (who had been here for ages and ages) decided it was no longer appropriate/worthwhile/safe being here.  I am a fossil here.....from those olden times! ......but 99% of my communications with folk i met here are now conducted elsewhere!!

Notwithstanding the above, I still pop back to catch up with some of the interesting and diverse autistic folk who once regularly and actively contributed here.  This ain't a bad place to be!  And to answer your question=yes.....I now virtually always ONLY communicate with such folk by PM because we don't understand what we can safely say/contribute here without risk of falling foul of the moderators and/or "some" folk/members/ex-moderators who troll here to enforce their version of "reality" for autists.

I hope you can stay here and find connection with others.  I think it is harder for everyone here now, but it need not be impossible.

Warm regards to you and for your autistically enquiring question.  Viva la difference!!

By the way, welcome over here :-)