Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing.
I think it is an extension of masking to be honest
I find it easier to talk online or by text much more so than in real life. Here you can speak to strangers without the social issues getting in the way, you don’t need to instantly respond, there’s no eye contact or self consciousness so with that in mind I am not the same person here as I am offline. I think I’m more of keep quiet sorta person more so than feeling the need to speak my mind unless of course there’s an injustice then I can be more vocal.
Hmmm. Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing. I try to be consistent. I say the same things in real life. There is only one me.
It is also age. In my 20s I took everything super personally. You have to learn to have a shield or filter or else you can be seen as defensive, argumentative, arrogant and intimidating.
I've been accused of all this and more over years, I made someone cry once unintentionally, but have tried to improve myself, since long before I was diagnosed.
I think some may put a lot of themselves into their online personas and take it extremely personally. I’m aware that a lot of people here are highly intelligent and articulate, this may be education, life experience or both. I’ve noticed posters are able to contribute incredible amounts of information almost instantly. I don’t have that much going on inside my brain I don’t think.
despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
Wait a few minutes, think if you'd be happy to read what you're about to say tomorrow, if you're not sure wait. Try to sleep on anything impulsive.
Mostly though I just think it is not that important. I don't need to win, there is not much at stake in an online discussion. That was why I posted the meme in the original thread.
The post here was just to ask for a bit of self-reflection. Maybe it was not interpreted as such.
I've been observing my RSD of late. I've come to the conclusion that I need to treat it as a "normal" meltdown: wait it out, give it a few days, and only then start looking for someone to blame. I end up concluding that my brain has overreacted and that there was "nothing to see here". That makes life a little easier.
I did not say anything rude
...despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
If you mean A deleting their account, I assume me.
It seems an overreaction. It is better to cool off for a day, a week, a month, then come back. I have done this before, including in response to a post on here.
To criticise but not be able to take it is an autistic trait, of which I am also guilty, so I look out for it.
But I have seen this type of posting elsewhere (other NT forums). People saying it is no good, not like it used to be, the mods are wrong. It has a corrosive influence and affects new people disproportionately. To say it on one thread, ok, but on 3, and no doubt it will come up again, is not helping anyone.
If there are interpretation issues with rules, then suggest how to make them clearer. I don't think people are acting with bad intentions by and large.
But a place with people with diagnosed communication issues having communication issues is not too surprising. I also wonder about perspective, as there are hundreds, maybe thousands of posts that are fine.
Anyway, people are responsible for their own actions. I did not say anything rude, I just questioned what the point was.
If they want to call me clueless and take umbrage rather than defend their position and convince me otherwise, fine.
The phrase with ‘that post’ originally said ‘this post’ and it looked like I was referring to A.
Then I thought I had better say it was edited in case A had read the first post and thought I was referring to him.
I see the editing has made the context senseless, so sorry about that.
Maybe I should just have removed the content of my second post?
l spent a very long time here doing exactly what you’ve just suggested but with depressing regularity someone will bully on here and with equally depressing regularity the mods will make the wrong decisions about it and they never listen.
If you'll allow me a little suggestion in the spirit of being supportive.... Maybe just accept that that's the way things are and engage in the posts that aren't so depressing. When all that "right of reply" stuff kicked off, I thought, "Eh, I'll just give this one a miss." I busied myself elsewhere.
We're a bunch of people with Autism and co-occurring RSD, PTSD, cPTSD, BPD, EUPD, ADHD, OCD, SAD, GAD, and a whole bunch of other TLAs (sorry if I'm leaving anyone out). It's to be expected that things will kick off every now and then. I'm frankly amazed at how courteous, supportive, tolerant, accepting and understanding people on here are in the main.
I’ll be tuning into Eastenders tonight
https://closeronline.co.uk/entertainment/tv-movies/eastenders-controversial-storylines/
Wow - dead babies, torture, grooming of underage girls, rape, being buried alive etc.
It almost makes this place look tame. Almost. 
Hi Lotus. Thanks for still being "around," and rest assured I do keep my "eye" in here from time to time, in any/every event and am always reassured to see your measured, reasonable and pleasant communications with EVERYONE here, whilst also clearly stating your truth too, at the same time. It is lovely to see.
I am a born analyst and I like to learn, observe and hone/correct my own understanding of the world, my perception of it AND how other humans seem to "be" within it.....in the vain hope that I might become more proficient at communicating with ALL types, whether autists like us, or the vast array of "others" that are always all around us, everywhere! I aim to stay open, measured and elastic in my thoughts and beliefs.....because I think that is important, but also because the alternative is pure folly!! I also hope to be able to "give back" to people like me who come here looking for connections, community and reassurance. All manner of (very different) types of people helped and reassured me when I first came here....and then we were able to derive mutual support and comfort TOGETHER....whilst also often profoundly disagreeing with each other......but no one really cared.....because the whole was far more important than the parts! = GOLDEN!
If I may be allowed to get a bit philosphical-on-your-donkey, at this point = I do wonder whether the "more aged" amongst us, have seen so many endless changes in what is "defined, established and unquestionable science, reality and fact" ...... think Pluto, butter -v- marg, "sun-burn is fine for kids", petrol -v- diesel, a glass of red wine is good for you -v- any alcohol is bad for you - v- and back again!, only drivers need a seat-belt - v- everyone needs full harness restraints AND bubble wrap, migration is good for the country -v- migration is awful, asbestos is a WONDER material -v- asbestos is a killer, Mary Whitehouse, throwing a bucket of water at a dog, from atop a horse -v- Alpha -v- Sit-ta -v- treats -v- no treats, 3 score and ten is plenty -v- we should all aspire to live for ever, Sadam Hussain is ace and our friend -v-not, the Taliban are our friends -v- not .........well, I know you already had the idea at point one.........but I enjoyed the mental memory-bank raiding......so back to my point!!!!
What I'm saying is, perhaps people who have "lived" and "seen" lots, don't feel the need to be flipping RIGHT and FULLY EVIDENCED in our current beliefs today........because we have seen so many "tomorrows" already.....that we know that "absolute certainty" is a mug's game......but common politeness and reasonableness is TIMELESS....and is therefore worth a mention if we see it disappearing down the plug hole? Also, we ourselves.....also change over time......sometimes by BIG amounts!
Anyhow, dear Lotus.......that turned into a "Thought For the Day" monologue......when all I was trying to say was;
a) don't worry - I'm not "flouncing" off......but equally.....
b) I have PLENTY of useful, good and other interesting things to do
c) I am a "bit raw" with worry about new folk who come here in need, and can only get "one sort of help" here at the moment, because all the other "helpers / diverse voices, attitudes and opinions" are being shut down, chased away or have become SO DISGUSTED or confused by current "policies/decisions" that they are choosing to PO themselves [Whilst I would never wish or expect people to listen to my opinions......ROY!!!!!......was there ever a nicer bloke here? Anyone?!
d) at this moment, those who can hear, have heard me and my opinions already - MORE than enough......and I honestly do get bored with hearing my own words....so I can imagine how awful it is for anyone else!.......so
e) I'll be quiet for a while (perhaps set that example?!).....and do something more useful for the world for a bit....whilst I await the "triggering thread" to disappear into the back-end-of-where-it-belongs....
You are a rare island of breadth here.....so I hope you can stay active, without loosing your beautiful and accomplished self-moderated spirit and manner. [yep - that sounds like I'm blowing smoke up yur donkey again.....but I believe autists are known for inappropriately honest declarations of fact....as they see it, so please take that "line" with the sincerity that generated it.
Stay well Lotus.
I didn't say you didn't pre-date me nor that you haven't done good things in the past.
For clarity this was not a comment at anyone in particular.
Suggesting the place in no longer good or helpful and that people should give up is not helping new people. This is one of the key things it is here for, for confused people looking for somewhere to turn. They can read, they can pick up on things. You don't want to put people off.
What has happened has happened.
If people are positive, the odd person can be seen. People can form their own opinions. We have people asking for both less and more moderation.
This the third thread.
The question should be what to do for the future.
There seems to be a significant difference in interpretation of the rules. That is solvable.
Fine, my time here is finally done
Stuart, I think I pre-date you here by quite a margin l spent a very long time here doing exactly what you’ve just suggested but with depressing regularity someone will bully on here and with equally depressing regularity the mods will make the wrong decisions about it and they never listen.
And frankly your clueless reply here is the final straw for me.
I think that needs to be put to the mods directly. It being gone over and over on here is not helping anyone or anything. It's just making it a less pleasant place to be. That particular incident needs to be moved on from now. I get your point about happening again. But I don't think this thread is going to help with that.
