I don't really see what the point of this thread is.
What do you hope to achieve? It does not make anything better or change anything. It just puts people off as much, maybe more so. People already said what they wanted to say, saying it again is not adding anything.
Be the change you want to see:
Stuart, I think I pre-date you here by quite a margin l spent a very long time here doing exactly what you’ve just suggested but with depressing regularity someone will bully on here and with equally depressing regularity the mods will make the wrong decisions about it and they never listen.
And frankly your clueless reply here is the final straw for me.
I didn't say you didn't pre-date me nor that you haven't done good things in the past.
For clarity this was not a comment at anyone in particular.
Suggesting the place in no longer good or helpful and that people should give up is not helping new people. This is one of the key things it is here for, for confused people looking for somewhere to turn. They can read, they can pick up on things. You don't want to put people off.
What has happened has happened.
If people are positive, the odd person can be seen. People can form their own opinions. We have people asking for both less and more moderation.
This the third thread.
The question should be what to do for the future.
There seems to be a significant difference in interpretation of the rules. That is solvable.
Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing.
I think it is an extension of masking to be honest
I find it easier to talk online or by text much more so than in real life. Here you can speak to strangers without the social issues getting in the way, you don’t need to instantly respond, there’s no eye contact or self consciousness so with that in mind I am not the same person here as I am offline. I think I’m more of keep quiet sorta person more so than feeling the need to speak my mind unless of course there’s an injustice then I can be more vocal.
Hmmm. Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing. I try to be consistent. I say the same things in real life. There is only one me.
It is also age. In my 20s I took everything super personally. You have to learn to have a shield or filter or else you can be seen as defensive, argumentative, arrogant and intimidating.
I've been accused of all this and more over years, I made someone cry once unintentionally, but have tried to improve myself, since long before I was diagnosed.
I think some may put a lot of themselves into their online personas and take it extremely personally. I’m aware that a lot of people here are highly intelligent and articulate, this may be education, life experience or both. I’ve noticed posters are able to contribute incredible amounts of information almost instantly. I don’t have that much going on inside my brain I don’t think.
despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
Wait a few minutes, think if you'd be happy to read what you're about to say tomorrow, if you're not sure wait. Try to sleep on anything impulsive.
Mostly though I just think it is not that important. I don't need to win, there is not much at stake in an online discussion. That was why I posted the meme in the original thread.
The post here was just to ask for a bit of self-reflection. Maybe it was not interpreted as such.
I've been observing my RSD of late. I've come to the conclusion that I need to treat it as a "normal" meltdown: wait it out, give it a few days, and only then start looking for someone to blame. I end up concluding that my brain has overreacted and that there was "nothing to see here". That makes life a little easier.
I did not say anything rude
...despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
I've been observing my RSD of late. I've come to the conclusion that I need to treat it as a "normal" meltdown: wait it out, give it a few days, and only then start looking for someone to blame. I end up concluding that my brain has overreacted and that there was "nothing to see here". That makes life a little easier.
I did not say anything rude
...despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing.
I think it is an extension of masking to be honest
I find it easier to talk online or by text much more so than in real life. Here you can speak to strangers without the social issues getting in the way, you don’t need to instantly respond, there’s no eye contact or self consciousness so with that in mind I am not the same person here as I am offline. I think I’m more of keep quiet sorta person more so than feeling the need to speak my mind unless of course there’s an injustice then I can be more vocal.
Hmmm. Personas are perhaps more of an NT thing. I try to be consistent. I say the same things in real life. There is only one me.
It is also age. In my 20s I took everything super personally. You have to learn to have a shield or filter or else you can be seen as defensive, argumentative, arrogant and intimidating.
I've been accused of all this and more over years, I made someone cry once unintentionally, but have tried to improve myself, since long before I was diagnosed.
I think some may put a lot of themselves into their online personas and take it extremely personally. I’m aware that a lot of people here are highly intelligent and articulate, this may be education, life experience or both. I’ve noticed posters are able to contribute incredible amounts of information almost instantly. I don’t have that much going on inside my brain I don’t think.
despite provocation. I applaud your restraint. What's your secret?
Wait a few minutes, think if you'd be happy to read what you're about to say tomorrow, if you're not sure wait. Try to sleep on anything impulsive.
Mostly though I just think it is not that important. I don't need to win, there is not much at stake in an online discussion. That was why I posted the meme in the original thread.
The post here was just to ask for a bit of self-reflection. Maybe it was not interpreted as such.
