Good morning A,
Well, I guess that's "their" colours firmly nailed to the Titanic....or perhaps the "Titan" submersible....to be more up-to-date?!
Earlier this year, I wanted to be sure that my increasing whining about COMMUNITY wasn't actually becoming part of the problem/problems that had become alarmingly evident in this place, at that time (to me) and that were undoubtedly, and unequivocally evident in the rapidly decreasing "numbers," diversity and activity levels here.
As you know, it is my opinion that "we people" need time and space to just to allowed to be here, in the diverse company of other autists, without fear or favour of being corrected, lectured, attacked and "advised" all the time. We should all be entitled to just chat.....about whatever...hold opinions and express them.....in whatever terminology we choose, within the rules...in peace and privacy (if desired)....in my opinion.
As a "numbers man"......I had satisfied myself that my whining hadn't been a "material contribution" to the ever decreasing attendance and activity here.....many months ago. I've just observed......until recently, when I saw something that prevented my continuing silence....then another thing.....then Roy left?!
Based on what I have witnessed in the last week or so here......the problem(s) run very deep, and VERY high!! I simply cannot interpret the "rules" in the same way as SOME others here, evidently do......and that makes it unsafe for me here.
I don't think that anyone can do anything......management here continues to demonstrate their determination to stick on their current "pathway" of policies and decisions. So be it. It's sad for people of difference though, who need ACTUAL help and want ACTUAL human company in a safe and diverse environment. I hope those people (our people) will be able to find it somewhere, in their times of need.
Have a good afternoon A.
I've have better things to do.
Hi Number, if you're still reading posts - just wanted to say that I remain here because I do not know of any other forum where I can chat to others like me. It's a shame people get put off and leave. Hope you post again soon.
Hi Number, if you're still reading posts - just wanted to say that I remain here because I do not know of any other forum where I can chat to others like me. It's a shame people get put off and leave. Hope you post again soon.
Hi Lotus. Thanks for still being "around," and rest assured I do keep my "eye" in here from time to time, in any/every event and am always reassured to see your measured, reasonable and pleasant communications with EVERYONE here, whilst also clearly stating your truth too, at the same time. It is lovely to see.
I am a born analyst and I like to learn, observe and hone/correct my own understanding of the world, my perception of it AND how other humans seem to "be" within it.....in the vain hope that I might become more proficient at communicating with ALL types, whether autists like us, or the vast array of "others" that are always all around us, everywhere! I aim to stay open, measured and elastic in my thoughts and beliefs.....because I think that is important, but also because the alternative is pure folly!! I also hope to be able to "give back" to people like me who come here looking for connections, community and reassurance. All manner of (very different) types of people helped and reassured me when I first came here....and then we were able to derive mutual support and comfort TOGETHER....whilst also often profoundly disagreeing with each other......but no one really cared.....because the whole was far more important than the parts! = GOLDEN!
If I may be allowed to get a bit philosphical-on-your-donkey, at this point = I do wonder whether the "more aged" amongst us, have seen so many endless changes in what is "defined, established and unquestionable science, reality and fact" ...... think Pluto, butter -v- marg, "sun-burn is fine for kids", petrol -v- diesel, a glass of red wine is good for you -v- any alcohol is bad for you - v- and back again!, only drivers need a seat-belt - v- everyone needs full harness restraints AND bubble wrap, migration is good for the country -v- migration is awful, asbestos is a WONDER material -v- asbestos is a killer, Mary Whitehouse, throwing a bucket of water at a dog, from atop a horse -v- Alpha -v- Sit-ta -v- treats -v- no treats, 3 score and ten is plenty -v- we should all aspire to live for ever, Sadam Hussain is ace and our friend -v-not, the Taliban are our friends -v- not .........well, I know you already had the idea at point one.........but I enjoyed the mental memory-bank raiding......so back to my point!!!!
What I'm saying is, perhaps people who have "lived" and "seen" lots, don't feel the need to be flipping RIGHT and FULLY EVIDENCED in our current beliefs today........because we have seen so many "tomorrows" already.....that we know that "absolute certainty" is a mug's game......but common politeness and reasonableness is TIMELESS....and is therefore worth a mention if we see it disappearing down the plug hole? Also, we ourselves.....also change over time......sometimes by BIG amounts!
Anyhow, dear Lotus.......that turned into a "Thought For the Day" monologue......when all I was trying to say was;
a) don't worry - I'm not "flouncing" off......but equally.....
b) I have PLENTY of useful, good and other interesting things to do
c) I am a "bit raw" with worry about new folk who come here in need, and can only get "one sort of help" here at the moment, because all the other "helpers / diverse voices, attitudes and opinions" are being shut down, chased away or have become SO DISGUSTED or confused by current "policies/decisions" that they are choosing to PO themselves [Whilst I would never wish or expect people to listen to my opinions......ROY!!!!!......was there ever a nicer bloke here? Anyone?!
d) at this moment, those who can hear, have heard me and my opinions already - MORE than enough......and I honestly do get bored with hearing my own words....so I can imagine how awful it is for anyone else!.......so
e) I'll be quiet for a while (perhaps set that example?!).....and do something more useful for the world for a bit....whilst I await the "triggering thread" to disappear into the back-end-of-where-it-belongs....
You are a rare island of breadth here.....so I hope you can stay active, without loosing your beautiful and accomplished self-moderated spirit and manner. [yep - that sounds like I'm blowing smoke up yur donkey again.....but I believe autists are known for inappropriately honest declarations of fact....as they see it, so please take that "line" with the sincerity that generated it.
Stay well Lotus.
