What I don't want

I think it's often easier to know what we don't want rather than what we do want, especially if you're not a goal driven person and don't have a particular ambition.

I squandered two decades of my life by not having goals or ambitions. 

Mercury said:

I squandered two decades of my life by not having goals or ambitions. 

But you've probably learned to have goals and ambitions. I sat on a couch for thirteen years (12 hours per day) and, in retrospect, it wasn't all wasted. I did learn that I was on too many stimulants for ADHD, that I was Autistic, that I need to put myself and my needs more forward. Would it have been better if I didn't sit on my couch for that long? Yes. Was it a total waste? No, it was, ultimately, very instructive. It won't happen again, I promise (myself).

Yes those are some very real choices.

How about good health, being happy, writing that short story you always wanted, learning to play a musical instrument, visiting a place that fascinates you etc.

Do any of these work?

This is exactly how I see things. I don’t have any ambitions to become anything. Is it personal achievement that some may strive for? A sense of status in society? Superiority? Nice house, nice car, materialism? 

I don't think it has anything to do with demand avoidance, I've never known what I want to do when I grow up and I'm 63 now! I've never had goals or ambitions, they just don't seem to be part of my make up.

I had all the writing things down and highlighting things with a careers advisor, they gave up because my likes and dislikes, the things I'm good at and the things I'm bad at didn't seem to match up with anything. Another thing for me personally is that I tend to be really good at something or really bad.

It's normal to have a load of "what if's" when starting something new, especially somethig as nebulous as dating and to put stumbling blocks in your way.

I don't think it has anything to do with demand avoidance, I've never known what I want to do when I grow up and I'm 63 now! I've never had goals or ambitions, they just don't seem to be part of my make up.

I had all the writing things down and highlighting things with a careers advisor, they gave up because my likes and dislikes, the things I'm good at and the things I'm bad at didn't seem to match up with anything. Another thing for me personally is that I tend to be really good at something or really bad.

It's normal to have a load of "what if's" when starting something new, especially somethig as nebulous as dating and to put stumbling blocks in your way.

Yes those are some very real choices.

How about good health, being happy, writing that short story you always wanted, learning to play a musical instrument, visiting a place that fascinates you etc.

Do any of these work?

This is exactly how I see things. I don’t have any ambitions to become anything. Is it personal achievement that some may strive for? A sense of status in society? Superiority? Nice house, nice car, materialism?