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Struggling To Go Out And Make Friends

keegan126

I've been diagnosed as Syndrome Asperges and have autism I am 30 years old living in Auckland, New Zealand.

I honestly find it really hard to go out and meet new friends and also struggling socially as well like running out of things to say. (Could be why I don't have friends).

I usually just sit alone and game in my room and I hardly go out and I don't have any hobbies and find it hard to get interested into a hobby.

So what do I do?

  • I know how you feel. I have been like this for years, I’m 34 now and I still don’t really like socialising, just makes me anxious all the time, even when I’m gaming. I don’t mind messaging other players online but I don’t like to voice chat with other players as I get really anxious and nervous.

  • I go out and don't care about making friends.  The weather today is warm and sunny, so I'm out in the woods taking photos of landscapes and wildlife.  Occasionally someone walking past says hello.

  • Oh Auckland, that’s a pretty big city, ain’t it? That’s the funny thing about cities; You can live near tons of people, but feel even more isolated than living in a small town. How’s your ability to manage transportation or public transit?

      ‘s idea of a gaming café is brilliant. At least here in the States many towns have game stores that serve a huge variety of hobbies: Pokémon cards, video games, Warhammer, D&D, Magic the Gathering, etc. If you can manage transit okay and can find one of these stores, I’d also recommend you check one out.

  • Are there any gaming cafes near you? We have spaces like this in our city and it tends to attract all sorts of our people. You may find people there with similar interest that you can talk more easiily to. Our gaming cafe is for tabletop games and I've not been yet, but if you're into games then something like that may be a place to start. Blush If you're on Facebook then you may be able to find local groups in your area that do this.