autistic adult child’s anger

we are at our wits end and need help and just don’t know what to do. We are a family of 4., Mum, Dad and grown up kids all living at home. Our son was diagnosed with HFA at 12. We have been through years of trying to understand him and trying to ignore the way he speaks to us all. He is so condescending, snappy and aggressive in his manner. We walk around on eggshells the majority of the time and family life is awful. We have tried talking to him but he gets defensive and then somehow manages to turn it around so that we feel we are the ones with the problem. It’s so hard to describe how hard it is living with him but it has got so bad now that his older siblings talking about moving out because they can’t stand it any more. is this constant miserable, aggressive tone in autism and how do you cope with it. I would really appreciate some help/advice, especially for our other grown up child .

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  • I am sorry to hear of your situation.

    Unfortunately not only is there little support available for adults with Autism, there is virtually nothing that can be done about any issues they have until they decide there's a problem and seek help themselves. 

    From your description, it sounds as if he is not happy and needs some intervention.  It could well be that a trip to the GP would be the best starting point, but it is convincing him of that - that will no doubt be the problem. 

    We cannot dispense medical advice or opinion on this forum but there remains the possibility that he may be suffering from other mental health conditions too (anxiety, depression for instance) which can contribute to the state of mind you describe.   I really do advocate some intervention by a medical professional if at all possible. 

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  • I am sorry to hear of your situation.

    Unfortunately not only is there little support available for adults with Autism, there is virtually nothing that can be done about any issues they have until they decide there's a problem and seek help themselves. 

    From your description, it sounds as if he is not happy and needs some intervention.  It could well be that a trip to the GP would be the best starting point, but it is convincing him of that - that will no doubt be the problem. 

    We cannot dispense medical advice or opinion on this forum but there remains the possibility that he may be suffering from other mental health conditions too (anxiety, depression for instance) which can contribute to the state of mind you describe.   I really do advocate some intervention by a medical professional if at all possible. 

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