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If the loneliness page doesn't work

Si2384

Sooooo I'm a practical person eho likes actual steps of what to do and the loneliness page hasn't helped.

  • Reach out to others, such as family and friends, for support -none available or helpful
  • Use your interests as a way of making connections, - I don't have an interest
  • Use social media and online forums or gaming to connect, -social media causes rage and negative emotions, gaming bores me
  • Consider peer support from a befriender service and local groups - can't find any even in the directory
  • Meet with others in an environment that meets your sensory needs -none to meet and nowhere to go
  • Spend time with pets or assistance dogs. -zero effect 

I help make a space for others but it's not for me I don't connect there the opposite in fact it highlights how alien I am. 

So now what? Just be satisfied alone?  Anyone else felt this way and got stuck? How'd you get unstuck or can we figure something else out to try?

  • Have you tried Meetup online? https://www.meetup.com/   You could browse the groups and see if something interests you. You can try something whilst sitting at home. I tried a few groups that we fun, although in the long-term they weren't what I was looking for. I did some creative writing with two groups which were completely different in style from each other. Everyone was really welcoming. There are online games groups, meditation, languages...

  • Is there anything you like doing? What do you do with yourself all day? If the answer is "nothing" you may be suffering from depression and I would recommend talking to your doctor. A lack of serotonin causes an inability to be interested in or enjoy anything, and there are medications that can help.

    Then think about what you might like doing, or what you used to enjoy, and see if you can start that hobby or interest. Even if it's something you do on your own, you can chat with people on here about it and it might help lift your spirits.

    This forum gives me an opportunity to connect with others and get support if I need it - I hope it does the same for you.

  • Si2384 said:
    So now what? Just be satisfied alone?  Anyone else felt this way and got stuck? How'd you get unstuck or can we figure something else out to try?

    You might find it helpful to contact your GP surgery and ask to be referred to a social prescriber / social prescribing link worker.

    Their role is to work with you, potentially over several sessions, in order to develop a personalised care and support plan that meets your "practical, social and emotional needs that affect their [your] health and wellbeing". This model operates throughout the UK. For example: 

    NHS England - Social prescribing

  • I feel this way too. It's not very helpful.

    Have you tried looking online for a befriender service? That might be worth a try.

  • Hi Si2384,

    I think despite trying these things, it is very easy to feel lonely being Autistic. What to do about it is difficult.

    I think the thing for me is that despite feeling lonely, I still want to keep trying. Except at times when I feel rock bottom. So I'd be wondering for you, how you are things for you as well as feeling lonely?

    Take care out there.

  • Hi and welcome to the community!

    I’m going to respectfully disagree with you and suggest that the page you refer to has already provided useful advice. :)

    By joining this forum and reaching out here, you’re already doing aspects of all except the final bullet point in the list:

    You’re reaching out, you’re using your interest in autism and related loneliness as a way of making a connection, this is an online forum, this community is based on peer support, and interactions here are in a sufficiently comfortable environment for you to use!

    That might sound facetious, but it isn’t my intention.  I just wanted to encourage you to consider that the advice can be followed in ways that might not immediately be obvious.

    I’m lonely too, by the way. It’s nice to meet you, and I hope you stay around!

  • Oops you can't edit posts for typos. Sorry