Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi.
I recently posted a photo of myself on facebook, enjoying a few days walking. I wasn't smiling in the photo and somebody commented telling me to smile. It really annoyed me to the point where it was all I could think about for most of the rest of the day (and clearly still thinking about it 2 days later)Afterwards, I remembered many other times when somebody has told me to smile and how often that lead to the end of my enjoyment of whatever it was I should be smiling at.
So, I'm trying to work out if this is an autism thing, childhood trauma, somehow related to demand avoidance, a reaction to criticism that I'm not doing enjoyment correctly... Has anybody any thoughts on this or could point me towards possible causes and solutions?
Thanks
Smile, usually goes a long with 'cheer up love it might never happen', or at least it does i you're female. I think it's incredibly rude of people to demand that you look visibly happy when your just going about your day minding your own business, probably thinking about something deep and meaningless. Why should it be anyones elses business what your facial expression is? People or rather male people in my experience, don't like being challenged on this (along with anything else), they see it as their right to have the world look as they wish and behave as they wish.
The next time someone says that to me, I'm not going to hold myself back any more I will hit them and stand up in court and tell the judge why I did it.