Published on 12, July, 2020
What do you do when somebody says they don't know what autism , is and thinks its just some stupid made-up categorization , and you just need to WORK ON YOURSELF, you know, be more MOTIVATED, and you can CHANGE. You could of course, explain that it's genetic, a neurological condition, like tourrettes for e.g. But to the NT world it seems, in their eyes, you're just BEING AWKWARD AND LAZY. It's pretty much unanimous In NT world. Its your fault you have CRAP SOCIAL SKILLS. And when you point out that instincts, and disposition are different, again, you're just making excuses AND NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH. totally invalidating your point. IS THIS GASLIGHTING?
What I'm saying is, i expect to be misunderstood. But it's very demoralizing, when you explains you have 'ASD' (or just plain autism)' and they give the the WHUH? FACE
I either give them a very bland answer like 'yes dear you think that if it makes you happy'. Or I just walk away and refuse to engage with them any further, it's pretty pointless trying to engage with people like that and they don't/won't/can't learn that other peoples stuff is real, I think they're just narcarsists. You don't need people like that in your life, nobody does, I've been told by people that I only have osteoarthritis because I believe I have and should exercise mind over matter and it will go away if I stop believing in it.
Well, i'm not sure that'd work. its more complicated. As it someone i known for months, not a stranger. I have so much to say, this thread is just maniacal ranting and venting my spleen, I think if its possible to be made emotionally insane from a life time of mental abuse i might be the living embodiment.