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The problem with dating services for autistic people.

Peter
1 month ago
  • Autistic people struggle to form romantic / sexual relationships
  • Autistic men (diagnosed) outnumber autistic women by orders of magnitude
    • It is not practical to attempt to address relationship difficulties in autism by assisting (diagnosed) autistic people in forming connections with each other only.
      A variety of dating ‘clubs’ and even specialist apps have been created to assist autistic people in dating, but they all focus on hooking up autistic people with each other.

In order to hook up autistic people with non-autistic people a service has to either

  1. Be open to both autistic and non autistic people, or
  2. Have access to a pool of neurotypical ‘volunteers.’

In case 1 the question is

  • how can the service provide a dating advantage to autistic people while still attracting neurotypical people to use the service.

In case 2 the question is

  • how can the service attract neurotypical volunteer ‘dates’ in reasonably large numbers without attracting people who would abuse the volunteer role.
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  • 1 month ago

    I re-joined two prominent online 'dating' services not long before my recent diagnosis, then amended my 'bio' to make it explicitly clear I have ASD.Whether generated artificially or not is unknown, but my profile (based on photo) continues to receive quite a lot of views.....but little more. Trouble is, 90% or more of those views received are from women with completely opposite life experience: my age range but with grown up kids! The follow-up messaging contact has almost exclusively been scammers. I really like the thought processes in this thread, but reality (dammit) dictates that such efforts are unlikely to work in my opinion.....

  • 1 month ago in reply to JamesB

    just tweek the age range to all ages but add 'no kids' as a search filter and see what you get.

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