The problem with dating services for autistic people.

  • Autistic people struggle to form romantic / sexual relationships
  • Autistic men (diagnosed) outnumber autistic women by orders of magnitude
    • It is not practical to attempt to address relationship difficulties in autism by assisting (diagnosed) autistic people in forming connections with each other only.
      A variety of dating ‘clubs’ and even specialist apps have been created to assist autistic people in dating, but they all focus on hooking up autistic people with each other.

In order to hook up autistic people with non-autistic people a service has to either

  1. Be open to both autistic and non autistic people, or
  2. Have access to a pool of neurotypical ‘volunteers.’

In case 1 the question is

  • how can the service provide a dating advantage to autistic people while still attracting neurotypical people to use the service.

In case 2 the question is

  • how can the service attract neurotypical volunteer ‘dates’ in reasonably large numbers without attracting people who would abuse the volunteer role.
Parents
  • Related info re one of my questions: 

    Autistic individuals are more likely to be LGBTQ+ - University of Cambridge

    "the study found that autistic adults and adolescents are approximately eight times more likely to identify as asexual and ‘other’ sexuality than their non-autistic peers. And there were sex differences in sexual orientation: autistic males are 3.5 times more likely to identify as bisexual than non-autistic males, whereas autistic females are three times more likely to identify as homosexual than non-autistic females."

  • I apreciate that. But that reserch still shows 75% (3 in 4) autistic males are straight and only 8% are homosexual. Homosexual dating runs through very difrent chanels and has difrent culture to hetrosexual dating. In short I'm not aware of any evidence that gay autistic people strugel relative to their NT counterparts. If you have some I'd be keen to see it. I think that answers question 2?

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  • I apreciate that. But that reserch still shows 75% (3 in 4) autistic males are straight and only 8% are homosexual. Homosexual dating runs through very difrent chanels and has difrent culture to hetrosexual dating. In short I'm not aware of any evidence that gay autistic people strugel relative to their NT counterparts. If you have some I'd be keen to see it. I think that answers question 2?

Children
  • In short I'm not aware of any evidence that gay autistic people strugel relative to their NT counterparts. If you have some I'd be keen to see it.

    I feel uncomfortable with various aspects of your overall premise, so - having flagged my initial thoughts / reactions - will step away from the discussion. No offence intended; it's an interesting subject overall and I'm interested to read anything that others may post.