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I'm done with counselling

ExplodingHeads
13 days ago

I had what I consider my final session today, it's not her, it's me.  It's on me to fix my problems and move on now.  

I wish I could have addressed my rejecting of my autism in the past, my repressed sexuality, or my general disappointment in humankind, but alas those subjects were perhaps beyond her charity mandated training.  (Mind Swansea)

I just reiterated the same junk and she and I just didn't connect at all.  50 minutes is a small window so I couldn't delve into the stuff that mattered and I said my goodbye over email.

Also I'm tired of talking about myself and the person on the other side of the room not giving a ***.  A paying client more than a person.  I might as well take a vow of silence and stay in the background.  

Please don't try to convince me to try again, I have been pushing my luck with the local services for years and I've just about run out of chances.

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  • 12 days ago

    I can only speak from my side, but I think my therapist was a bit patronising, didn't really challenge my beliefs or get me to see things from the other side, and cut me off when I was speaking about being bullied in school when the 50 minutes were up.  Her displays of empathy felt artificial and rehearsed, and I already knew I was done.

  • 12 days ago in reply to ExplodingHeads

    It's such a disapointment when you've screwed up your courage to see a counsellor and you don't get on, or they don't respond in the way you want.

    I have to say in her defence though, that counsellors are taught not to over run a session and if needed to cut someone off. It's about setting boundaries, sometimes it's really hard as the client is only just opening up, but other clients always want to push the boundaries.

    Some styles of counselling are more on the listening side and less on the challenging side, it sounds as though the one you had was a listener and not a challenger. Some people will feel totally unheard and get upset by even the gentlest challenge, it's a hard line to walk with any client and you only really get the balance right as the relationship developes.

    If you seek counselling at some point in the future, then it may be worth researching different counselling styles and types and asking what model the person you're seeking help from practices. Some will get in a huff about being asked questions like that, but I think they're the people to be avoided.

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  • 12 days ago in reply to ExplodingHeads

    It's such a disapointment when you've screwed up your courage to see a counsellor and you don't get on, or they don't respond in the way you want.

    I have to say in her defence though, that counsellors are taught not to over run a session and if needed to cut someone off. It's about setting boundaries, sometimes it's really hard as the client is only just opening up, but other clients always want to push the boundaries.

    Some styles of counselling are more on the listening side and less on the challenging side, it sounds as though the one you had was a listener and not a challenger. Some people will feel totally unheard and get upset by even the gentlest challenge, it's a hard line to walk with any client and you only really get the balance right as the relationship developes.

    If you seek counselling at some point in the future, then it may be worth researching different counselling styles and types and asking what model the person you're seeking help from practices. Some will get in a huff about being asked questions like that, but I think they're the people to be avoided.

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