In tears at NAS

Need a support group in my town and talk about the struggles have daily. Plus want to have more awareness.

I had a nervous breakdown in 2015 when I was exhausted.

I emailed NAS and got a good response asking if I could take this further, here are some details of organisations that could help me. Finding people don't listen to me anymore. I had this idea and said no to me. Feeling sad. Enjoy my volunteering and next month it's the summer break. 

thank you Sharon mod. Let's hope you can do something.

Hi Rose

I am sorry to hear that you have been having such a difficult time. I understand that you felt let down by the interaction you had with someone linked to the NAS. You may want to visit our Tell us what you think page for ways to contact us, so that your concern will be logged, acknowledged and responded to in line with the NAS Complaints Resolution Policy & Procedure. 

We have edited your post to remove the image which clearly identified another person. This is against rule 2: "This Community forum is public, so do not post personal or identifying details." 

You may wish to seek support from an advocate- there are details of some local advocacy services in our Autism Services Directory or you can search for ‘[name of local authority] + advocacy’ using a search engine.

You may also find our web page on criminal justice helpful. 

Best wishes

Sharon Mod

Thanks. this clarifies things. So just a few words from the right person gets an accommodation (literally) for a new place?  Can you write this all down and perhaps get a neighbor to corroborate? Perhaps all you need is evidence? I am not sure what else could prevent you from receiving this. Can yo uexplain a bit more about t your experience with NAS around this?

ALso in teh mean time I would go to the police, not call them got to them and explain what is happening in your building. They may also ask for proof, but file the report anyway. Take this to your landlord. And let them know what afoot in your building. They may not be aware and if they are ignoring it that is valuable info too.

My heart goes out to you Rose.

It's going back more than two decades, but I used to live in a block of council maisonettes where there were similar issues. Accessing my maisonette involved the use of a communal stairway, which was littered with used syringes, plus human excrement that was smeared on the walls. It definitely wasn't the kind of environment that I wanted to be raising my young son in.

I feel disappointed for you that the response you received from NAS wasn't particularly helpful. You say you have complained to the police, but have you tried involving your local MP or councillors?

I hope it all gets sorted out soon for you, it's an intolerable position to be in.

Hi there, all good advice. I contacted the MP and they wrote to the housing who told the MP they are basically telling the neighbours off, but have not did anything about it. MP seems to not be able to do anything else. I have police crime numbers and the police contact the housing continuously to report crimes that the neighbours have did, I am not the only one reporting to the police, and often the police are going to their flat for something they have did out side of the flat, drug dealing, or steeling, fights etc. CAB just tell me the same info you did. Someone is contacting the main NAS so hopefully that will see a better result. 

I shouldn't be surprised at the help you're not getting, but I am, I know I didn't have much help or support from the local autistic group, but I dont' think they're part of NAS, will your local NAS group do video meetings? Can you ask the police to back you up about the number of times they've been called to your block and the crimes they're being called to attend? I would suggest you seek the help of your MP, but that all a bit up in the air until the 4th of July. What about CAB can they help?

What about the national NAS will they not help and talk to your local branch?

sorry to hear you have gone through similar.

answers to your questions: 

I do live alone.

age I never tell my age

She is my mother and lives in another part of the city, I cannot live with her as she is also in a small studio flat - no room for me. 

I am trying to get a home elsewhere and needed help from NAS a simple letter just a few lines was all that was needed. 

The man next door and his associates are drug sellers and it is very dangerous. I live on the top floor and need to pass them to get out of my flat. It is a small block of 9 studio flats in my city. 

So

So many things to know to be able to help that I don't know.

What I want to know

You do not live alone, right?

who do you live with and can you get any support from them?

what is your relationship with this other flatmate, if you have one?

How old are you?

Your mother was mentioned in the texs above, what is your relation to her?

What I know:

Your neighbors are not going to change or go away.

You will have to do the changing.

Your story is more common than you think, both past and present.

Living next door to PTSD triggers = run away now!

Most all who have lived your story will tell you that the only way out is to to just leave, run, now!.

Where you go is a to be determined.

I would need more info to help you find the right direction.

So far your answers are panic driven, and I get that, but you need to think like a warrior now.

I will not tell you how much your situation mirrors my own as it is not what you need to hear right now, even if it is true.

the fact that there has been knives in the close carried by those people and the fact I put in the videos from my doorbell camera with antisocial diary as proof that Nas has not even looked at them to see how serious this is. I am fearing my life. I only get out of my flat sometimes, and cant go out in late afternoon and evenings due to them in the close. I am scared for my own life. No one seems to understand how serious this is. 

sorry to hear about your experience. 

Hi there,

Ages ago had a neighbour who was a radio DJ. After her radio program, used to return home and play music until the early hours. One of the neighbours complained and the neighbour didn't care. On another occasion smelt smoke, a family member popped around to say please put the fire out and the neighbour just laughed. Told lies about her DJ contract being only 9 months. Once I was home alone, a neighbour popped around saying having a housewarming party. We weren't invited. I couldn't sleep due to the noise and the next day I had a barbecue (in the wrong place); my laundry nearly got covered in smoke.

Strange that NAS couldn't help you. 

Tick box does not suit autistics at all :-( still shaken and still in tears. What is happening to society, it is going downhill so fast. 

This tick box society is meaning that thousands of vulnerable people are suffering. In the 80's 90's 00's they would have just been happy to help a fellow human

There was no understanding, no sympathy, no kindness. It is just as bad that they changed their venue from a nice one to a dreadful one as well. 

I have also had verbal abuse from the neighbours, I am a shy polite person and have never spoken to them, I am scared , but they found out I was complaining so they shout at my door and outside up at my window. They also put bed bugs through my door last year and i was bitten and got an allergy to them and eneded up needing medical care. I was then out 6 thousand pounds due to the damage the housings terrible bud treatment did to my furniture and goods, they ruined my things. 

That is a surprisingly curt response from someone dealing (hopefully usually more tactfully!) with autistic and vulnerable people every day. I suppose the only thing you can do now is go to a further meeting to show recent activity on that front, but as you've been essentially a prisoner in your own home and it probably took a lot to even cross the door and make it to the meeting first time around... well, no offence meant to the NAS workers and volunteers but... why not be a little more understanding and flexible? It's not like you're asking for the moon on a stick, just a letter of support to assist in a high-stress situation. I'm disappointed with NAS on this one, despite how much I value this place. Not good.