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Wanting to cook but anxiety holding me back

Katy
1 month ago

Hi, I'm new here, and hoping that this is something some of you might understand.

I'm 28 and have autism. I struggle in such a big way with seemingly normal every day things. Because of my physical health problems I'm unable to work but I want to become more independent so like doing my own banking, my parents do this for me at the moment. And I want to start learning to cook so I can look after myself as and when I need to when my parents aren't around anymore.

But there's a problem. My anxiety. It's absolutely monstrous and it affects me in so many ways, physically and mentally. I want to learn to cook but I'm so anxious about doing it for so many reasons.

I'm worried about,

  • Giving myself and others food poisoning.
  • Burning myself.
  • Being a terrible cook. 
  • Food disagreeing with me and making me ill.

I know I shouldn't let my anxiety win and rule my life but I can't help it. It's got this bad that it always wins and I've had therapy and everything but nothing has helped me. 

I'm open to any suggestions and advice. Please help. I desperately want to be able to cook and enjoy the stuff I make. I've bought so many pots and pans, and cooking tools, but I haven't been able to use any of them yet.

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  • 1 month ago

    start with something easy like beans on toast and then progress to say cheese on toast and then try say poached egg and then maybe combine a jar of bolognaise sauce with some mince and spaghetti and call it spaghetti bolognaise and then do the same thing with some chicken, rice and a jar of curry sauce and then ....

    each time you succeed the anxiety will diminish. By succeeding in this way you might wonder what other things you can succeed  at and then the world is your oyster

  • 1 month ago in reply to dad1967
    dad1967 said:
    each time you succeed the anxiety will diminish

    This is what I'm hoping for... lol Laughing it works for me that way sometimes but not always. Really it's a bit of a lottery with my anxiety, sometimes it gets better when I do things and other times it gets worse. 

    Anxiety is a weird thing, like a constant battle which I can win a few times but never really defeat. Or not yet anyway.

    Maybe one day though! Slight smile 

    I'm making a soup at the moment, nothing special, just a tomato soup and so far it's going ok.

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  • 1 month ago in reply to dad1967
    dad1967 said:
    each time you succeed the anxiety will diminish

    This is what I'm hoping for... lol Laughing it works for me that way sometimes but not always. Really it's a bit of a lottery with my anxiety, sometimes it gets better when I do things and other times it gets worse. 

    Anxiety is a weird thing, like a constant battle which I can win a few times but never really defeat. Or not yet anyway.

    Maybe one day though! Slight smile 

    I'm making a soup at the moment, nothing special, just a tomato soup and so far it's going ok.

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