Published on 12, July, 2020
All I did was walk up to people and chat to them in a friendly way. I thought that was the point of these places? But apparently some people only want to go to them to socialise with people they already know. Well, I have less sympathy than I used to for the struggles of pubs and bars.
People do go to bars to meet new people. But it depends immensely on the type of the bar the type of person. In my experience young people go to noisy clubbish bars to meet other young people.
also the approach is very important. If you overhear a conversation and perhaps you lean over and say ‘I couldn’t help but overhear you saying X and I thought you might like to know Y.’ And then if they respond as if they are interested maybe you can start a conversation and if they don’t you just have to excuse yourself and move on.
there is a big difference between that and just sitting down at somebody’s table and saying let me introduce myself. But at the end of the day you were not expected to know these things will be an expert on how to approach people because you are autistic and it is a handicap for you. If the bar has not made allowances for you I think they are probably discriminating against you (in a moral if not legal sense).
Peter said:probably discriminating against you (
Seriously? A pub is there to make money, not to provide assistance. Pubs have no obligations to cater for people with social difficulties. They are not a public service.
if those social difficulties are the consequence of a disability then yes they do. In exactly the same way that they have an obligation to cater to people with mobility difficulties by putting in ramps / lifts.
Amerantin (former member) said: in the real world people cannot go around harassing others or causing problems on a business's premises and then just play the autism card and demand to be allowed to continue. You may believe otherwise but I am afraid it just isn't how the world works, nor should it be, and frankly to suggest otherwise is an insult to all of us and the very real problems we face.
This man truth speaks.
That's one of the many reasons I never disclose my diagnosis. I have seen too many people behaving like complete ass clowns, and then claiming "BUT I AM AUTISTIC!", like it was an excuse. This is why people become "ableist"