Published on 12, July, 2020
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/adhd-can-explain-doesnt-excuse-how-take-personal-leanne-maskell/
Edit: Sorry. I did not think this was conflating Autism and ADHD, I figured since autism and ADHD are common comorbidities and some of the people here are not diagnosed they may not be aware of ADHD as well. I haven't found an ADHD forum yet. Also, I am not entirely how this is all about pulling yourself up from your bootstraps. The way i saw it was you are responsible for your actions. Your ADHD and autism do not define who you are. Who you are is what you do. ADHD may make you more impulsive, have a worse memory and lots of other things but it is your responsibility to seek out help in the areas that you need it. This doesn't mean you have to do everything yourself it means self-awareness knowing your strengths and weaknesses and finding ways to manage your weaknesses you can't rely on other people all the time to put up with you. If your actions hurt other people you can't blame your neurodivergence, it gives an explanation for why it happens but is up to you make amends, and try to prevent it from happening again. I don't know if this is directly relevant to Autism, but it was an interesting perspective. That was the point of the article not about ADHD or Autism but the perspective on neurodivergence. I didn't view this as just masking, it was more of you know you have ADHD, so you need to put in place measures that work with your brain to prevent harmful actions from occurring. If they do occur then it is still your fault. You shouldn't blame yourself for being neurodivergent you should view it as here is where I struggle, what measures can I put in place to make it easier for me. A growth mindset essentially just means you learn from your mistakes. Our brains aren't fixed, they are capable of change. This is called neuroplasticity. We may always have autism or adhd but that does not define who we are. What defines who we are is our actions. Just because something happened in the past does not mean we are always doomed to repeat our mistakes, but we have got to be willing to put the work in. That's unfair, neurotypical people don't have to put up with this, but life's unfair, we can't control that we were given autism or adhd what we can control is how we respond to it.
I will leave you with this quote from Doctor Who. "The universe shows it's true face when it asks for help. We show ours by how we respond."
So what are you trying to say ?Anybody Diagnosed with ASD are responsible for their own actions when they have no control ?Are you suggesting it is a choice ?
No (I don't really know, sorry). The brain is fundamentally different. If you are incapable of doing something then you can't do something then it is not your fault. If you can't do something, you can't do something. I viewed it as what can I control about my autism or adhd. I can't control the fact that my brain is different, or that I react to sounds differently, or I can't focus. None of these things are my fault and I didn't choose to have them. What I can choose to do is how I respond to the ways my brain works. Taking medication for ADHD, if that is available. Knowing that I have difficulties with sounds, I can wear earplugs, to limit the sounds. If I have difficulties with memory I can put measures in place to counteract those difficulties. A brain with ADHD is described a race car with bicycle brakes. Nobody chooses to have ADHD what they can choose to do is improve their brakes, so the race car can run more smoothly. The thing about neurodivergence is that everybodies is different. Which makes it hard to diagnose and treat. There are things you can do and things you just can't. It is your responsibility to manage what you can and can't do, or maybe you just can't manage it. I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice, the point of the article was to give people a different perspective. I don't know everything, but other people can fill in the gaps of my knowledge, which was the whole point of posting the article. To see how they responded. It seems like it was a bad choice.
I am not entirely sure where you are getting the idea I am suggesting having ASC is a choice, if you could point me to it I would be happy to change my wording. If I did then I am sorry, I did not mean it.
Edit: I am sorry. I am rash and impulsive and write things I don't really mean. I am working on it. I am trying to figure everything out just like everybody else.