Can we please stope saying that autism is not an disability?! This is NOT helping

(from a discussion I joined in Reddit)

I have been noticing a trend of people who claim that autism is not an disability, I think there were even some people who were asking to remove it from the classification. Do these people not realise the harm they are making to other autistic people, and themselves, just because they have a prejudice against the "disability" designation?

Last year I got my ASD diagnosis, after my social life was ruined by burnouts and horrible blunders.

It is taking all that is in me to admit to myself that I can not do certain things, it is taking all that it is in my self to cope that can not fight my social awkwardness and that this is the only way I can keep socialising with the people. In the best case scenario I end up looking like the "weird one" or the "clown friend" again, it is taking all in me to accept that I have this disability and that I need some accessibility for things.

And yet people keep working to feed this prejudice that many of us have to work against in ourselves.

Every time that I feel I can not express the way I feel or think, it honestly feels like my body is a trap sometimes.

I cannot read body language and vocal cues. Dogs can. I am less functional than a goddamn dog. That's not the fault of society for not being accommodating enough.

I cannot drive at night, bright lights give me an headache and trigger a meltdown. That's not the fault of society for not being accommodating enough.

I cannot stand loud TV or radio. Everybody else can. That's not the fault of society for not being accommodating enough.

I cannot read a map or find my way around an unfamiliar place. That's not the fault of society for not being accommodating enough.

I have poor fine motor control skills. That's not the fault of society for not being accommodating enough.

Something *is* wrong with my brain. I *am* disabled. I need accommodations to function comfortably, and that's okay. It's nothing to be ashamed of because it's not my fault. I did no wrong; I just have a brain that didn't develop correctly. We need to get rid of "AuTiSM Iz MaGiKaL SupErPoWeR". It is not. It's an horrible disability, and my only hope is that someday there will be a way to prevent it.

To be honest, I think that those people saying that ASD is not a disability are either subscribing to the social theory of disability (total lunacy), deluded, or they have such a mild form of ASD that ASD is not a disability for them. I call them the "TikTok autistics"!  

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  • I am 59 and found out this year that i was autistic. I have struggled all my life. Some people say, we all struggle  we all feel like that sometimes, we all get down, we all getvtired etc etc. That is what i have had to listen to and so that is what i believed. So now, although i am autistic, nothing has changed and i dont "think" that i have a disability, weather i do or dont. Its a life that i have  become accustomed to. I am upset with the mental health services though, because they havent recognised the disability and as a result treated wrongfully. 

  • I’m 52 and was also diagnosed this year.

    I too have struggled and, if I’m being honest, thought I was just a bit of a rubbish person.

    I was absolutely shocked during the diagnosis process when I was repeatedly told that things I experience and struggle with are not the norm for most people and therefore it’s no wonder I’m unhappy and burned out. I thought everyone experiences what I experience and just did a better job of handling it.

  • I thought everyone experiences what I experience and just did a better job of handling it.

    Me too and I'd got to 60.

    I think that for us older people it's a real revelation because we've experienced so much of the 'battle of life' (Dickens).

  • ...and I'd got to 67!

    Ben

    Me too and I'd got to 60.
  • you said it sister!

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