Published on 12, July, 2020
How do you lovely people cope / deal with ambiguity?I'm guessing that most autistic people would struggle, or is it just me?
For me, ambiguity can lead to assumptions.Assumptions can lead to misunderstandings / incorrect interpretations. misunderstandings / incorrect interpretations can lead to mistakes.
This is critical in my line of work (I work in IT) and ambiguity usually equals delays, excessive cost and poor quality.I'm more than happy to expand on my situation if there is interest in this topic of conversation.
Join the club.
I find it difficult to deal with people being here 'in ten minutes' then not arrive until an hour later.
GPK26 said:This is critical in my line of work (I work in IT) and ambiguity usually equals delays, excessive cost and poor quality.
I used this to my advantage and developed a nice career in project management and IT service design, transition and delivery where being specific was demanded.
In day to day life I used the skills from this to ask when something is vague although I have learned to let some things socially remain vague so they have a more organic nature.
Your title sums up my feelings perfectly, (if you simply remove the question mark) in terms of my need for VERY clear and absolute instructions, if I am required to DO something. These days, I will not embark on anything in my work life without first agreeing very clear and absolute instructions regarding the scope and remit of what I am expected to achieve.
I have not always known this about myself. Prior to my realisation and acceptance of my autism, I believed that I was perfectly capable at "filling in the gaps" for myself. Big mistake.....HUGE !! After a couple of very confusing FUBAR situations in my work life, it became increasingly evident that some of the unfathomable "logic" of an NT brain is simply beyond my own comprehension.
"When you *** up, it makes a *** go ass shaped>?....."....no wait, that's not right?!
Yes and often I don't even know it is happening until reflecting back after the conversation. I think it's built in at a fundamental level with a lot of allistic people. It has caused me problems in the past when I have asked for help (more than once), the other person thinks they've helped, so do I, but can't work out why I'm still struggling then it all gets in a mess. It happens with friends who make vague plans but I think we have made proper plans. I'm learning to meet myself half way these days but it takes ongoing practise. I'm fortunate to be surrounded by many people who are quite direct which makes life a bit easier. Or I ask for clarification.
"When you assume it makes an ass out of u and me!"