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Worried about my mum

Kay
11 months ago

I find i worry all the time, mostly about the future and my own health. I suffer badly from health anxiety. But I've got GAD and it causes me to worry chronically about most things.

Lately I've become increasingly worried about my mum. She's in her mid fifties and her memory is very bad. I went in to town with my mum a week ago and she couldn't remember which way it was to get to certain shops.

And earlier in the year she took me to the doctor's but she doesn't remember even going and can't remember the doctor's name or anything.

My Gran, her Mum had Alzheimer's disease and I'm terrified that my Mum now has it. I don't know what to do, whether I should say anything or if I'm overthinking it.

I love my Mum so much and I'm terrified of her getting sick or worse than that.

A few years ago I was detained for mental health reasons and it was after this when I first noticed her memory wasn't quite so good and she can be distant.

I feel responsible.

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  • 11 months ago
    Kay said:
    A few years ago I was detained for mental health reasons and it was after this when I first noticed her memory wasn't quite so good and she can be distant.

    This memory issue can also be just old age - any seniors I know have it to some degree and I am finding myself forgetting silly stuff at times, but this is just a symptom of a brain with high milage

    As for worrying about Azheimers, try to rationalise that worrying won't change the fact that it may or may not appear. In the event there is a positive diagnosis later down the line, the fact that it is fairly slow onset should give you plenty of time to talk about the stuff you want to with your mum, ideally record her while she is still in a good stage and have something to show to the family further down the line when they ask about the older generation of the family.

    You will have time to learn how to cope, how to make the most of life and there is still time for a medical breakthrough - who knows?

    So find something else to worry about, something more immediate and of a lesser nature so you keep your brain engaged in this state of anxiety that it seems to crave.

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  • 11 months ago
    Kay said:
    A few years ago I was detained for mental health reasons and it was after this when I first noticed her memory wasn't quite so good and she can be distant.

    This memory issue can also be just old age - any seniors I know have it to some degree and I am finding myself forgetting silly stuff at times, but this is just a symptom of a brain with high milage

    As for worrying about Azheimers, try to rationalise that worrying won't change the fact that it may or may not appear. In the event there is a positive diagnosis later down the line, the fact that it is fairly slow onset should give you plenty of time to talk about the stuff you want to with your mum, ideally record her while she is still in a good stage and have something to show to the family further down the line when they ask about the older generation of the family.

    You will have time to learn how to cope, how to make the most of life and there is still time for a medical breakthrough - who knows?

    So find something else to worry about, something more immediate and of a lesser nature so you keep your brain engaged in this state of anxiety that it seems to crave.

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