Published on 12, July, 2020
I am interested to know as currently having difficulties with reactions of my son to staff at school. He is autistic with ADHD and often needs to check what he has done wrong when he has been given a punishment, but comes across as rude.
What experiences do others have from their own schooling in this respect?
Any resolutions that were found would be appreciated too.
yeah school is like that because teachers are wrong all the time.i got dragged off by a teacher who claimed i shouted through a vent to the exam hall when people where doing their gcses, it wasnt me but he claimed he knew my voice. i saw the kids that did it and they even ran past and laughed and mocked me for getting done for what they did when the teacher was dragging me away infront of the teachers face but he didnt care he still got me done for it. teachers are always wrong, and when they know they are wrong they double down on their wrong as they dont want to admit they was wrong.theres many times like that, one time in it some kid did something in class and i got done, then i pointed out it was that kid, teacher didnt believe me, that kid owned up and said it was, teacher ignored him didnt care and was intent to just punish me.i hate teachers, they are trash, they have no morals. they are always wrong. no wonder schools cannot teach kids these days because the teachers dont know anything and hold no moral standards.
Caelus said:i hate teachers, they are trash, they have no morals. they are always wrong
I know a few teachers and having been through the same education system as you I know there are bad apples.
It is unfair to label them all as bad - tar them with the same brush or whatever term is used. There are good as well as bad and I had some who nurtured me though school ond onto university in spite of my social limitations.
Homebird said:Are you able to share examples of how they helped you with your difficulties?
My physics teacher noticed my aptitude for the subject when I was about 16 and encouraged me to look into a few areas at the time which were quite cutting edge (mostly around optics which was her special interest area) and encouraged me to look beyond the cirriculum.
When I applied to get into Uni at age 17 (I got the grades to get into a failry prestigious course which only 2 unis in the country had) she took me up to uni for the day to visit the dept (where she graduated), introduced me to some of her friends who were doing postrads there and took me out after to the union (student bar) to socialise in the evening.
Seeing a teacher having a passion for the subject I loved and who would have taken time out of her life to show me more about it and how it is likely to look when I get there was awesome. It became a lot less scary and helped me decide to accept that course over the more conventional alternatives that were offered.
There was no ulterior motives, no angle to make me look stupid or watch me fail - just a teacher going above and beyond to encourage a student to go on to challenge themselves and shoot for the stars.
Other teachers were also much more approachable when treated as adults working with us rather than authority figures trying to control us. There were a few who were egomaniacs but they were tolerated and once we got to know a bit more of their back story (often via other teachers teling us) then they were victims of trauma who had adopted their persona as a form of defence.
I also had the deputy head encouraging me to go onto uni as I did have a girlfriend who became a bit of a troublemaker at school and who had no interest in going beyond age 16 at school - there was a time when she was railing against some punishments she got for skipping class and shouting at a teacher and the good relationship between me and the deputy head became a bone of contention.
It should be pointed out that uni was a path relatively few people took at the time (early 1980s) so having someone get into a prestigious course was something that appealed to the more traditional senior teachers - I guess it was as close to job satisfaction as they got.
What I was given as support was someone to talk to about the paths ahead, advice on what to expect and how to navigate the change of going to uni and an offer of someone to talk to about any challenges I was facing (my family had moved to a different country in my last year at school so I was staying on to finish school on my own).
Maybe this was because I was in a smallish town (about 10k people) in Scotland in a time when attitudes were different - maybe not.
Thank you for your reply. Are you able to share examples of how they helped you with your difficulties?