Are all adult assessments so stressful?

Please be aware that I have some blunt comments below - they are not intended to attack you but are my understanding of the situation based on what you wrote.

I am not a child and don't enjoy feeling humiliated.

That illustrates that you didn't understand the test properly. These are required actions to see how you process some essential elements of your brain.

You may think they are childish but to refuse to do it means you are preventing the analyst from observing your behaviour. It is not to humiliate you but the fact you feel humiliated reflects more on some issues you have which probably need some therapy time.

Eventually I lost it and snapped after she said I’d taken a comment the wrong way; at this point I just wanted out. Was this intentional on her part I wonder?

From your behaviour so far I think it is you who was looking to get out. You have only exhibited negativity around the meeting and its outcome which may represent a denial or resentment of it.

This does not preclude a duff evaluator of course - they are only human and hence prone to bias and failure as are we all.

And who in hell decided that phone calls and virtual appointments for autistic assessments and follow ups was a good idea? When you have trouble picking up the phone, and find video calling stressful, how can you represent yourself when you’re trying hard just to keep up and make sense of the conversation?

These are perfect for the large number of autists who have major issues of going out or being in the company of others. It also saves time for everyone involved and the costs of transport to get to the sessions.

If you have major issues with the comminication then you should insist on a face to face meeting. I'm sure they can arrange it although you may have a long trip of they are in a different town.

Please be aware that I have some blunt comments below - they are not intended to attack you but are my understanding of the situation based on what you wrote.

I am not a child and don't enjoy feeling humiliated.

That illustrates that you didn't understand the test properly. These are required actions to see how you process some essential elements of your brain.

You may think they are childish but to refuse to do it means you are preventing the analyst from observing your behaviour. It is not to humiliate you but the fact you feel humiliated reflects more on some issues you have which probably need some therapy time.

Eventually I lost it and snapped after she said I’d taken a comment the wrong way; at this point I just wanted out. Was this intentional on her part I wonder?

From your behaviour so far I think it is you who was looking to get out. You have only exhibited negativity around the meeting and its outcome which may represent a denial or resentment of it.

This does not preclude a duff evaluator of course - they are only human and hence prone to bias and failure as are we all.

And who in hell decided that phone calls and virtual appointments for autistic assessments and follow ups was a good idea? When you have trouble picking up the phone, and find video calling stressful, how can you represent yourself when you’re trying hard just to keep up and make sense of the conversation?

These are perfect for the large number of autists who have major issues of going out or being in the company of others. It also saves time for everyone involved and the costs of transport to get to the sessions.

If you have major issues with the comminication then you should insist on a face to face meeting. I'm sure they can arrange it although you may have a long trip of they are in a different town.

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