Dealing with negativity

Making your own clothing is cool!

Allie🖤 said:

Poppy Z. Brite

Never heard of her! What kind of genres/themes does she write about?

I love everything about autistic experience, my dedicated interest is autistic experience. I love being part of this amazing community and watching an autistic led education platform called Aucademy and writing poetry about being autistic. I have recently started blogging about the importance of autistic community for an autistic led organisation called Neurodiverse Connection! It’s great!

Yeah I’m working on my boundaries! I need to do what’s best for me :)

We will boost you up if you need it!

I like to make doilies and pieces of clothing :) and any book by Poppy Z. Brite is a favourite of mine! What about you?

Allie🖤 said:

Thank you! I definitely feel comfortable here already :) 

You are very welcome! That’s great, I feel such a strong sense of belonging here too!

What kind of things do you like to make with your crocheting? What is your favourite book?

Ignore message, I have not actually deleted my reply.

Aww bless you

When they start talking and it's heading that way leave the room if you can or you can put in your ear pods and listen to music. Drown out the upsetting stuff.

When you feel sad you should do something you enjoy to make yourself smile and happy again. That's what I do when I'm feeling sad.

I just feel awkward about the whole thing, I don’t even want to tell them exactly how I feel. I feel awkward and embarrassed and I just want to run away from the whole situation. :( 

I'm sorry your dealing with this Allie. It's a horrible thing to have to hear and it's bound to make you feel sad, I would feel the exact same way.

Have you tried writing your feelings down? You could do that and show your family. Expressing yourself through writing might be easier for you. I find it easier telling py how I'm feeling in writing than person. I can't speak properly so it's easier to write

Thank you! I definitely feel comfortable here already :) 

I love to crochet, read, and watch horror movies 

I’ll try not to!

That's a shame. I don't want you to lose hope though. 

Sorry I accidentally deleted my replies to you.

I don’t think anything would work if I’m being honest 

Do you think that if you wrote things out for them it'd be easier or do you think they wouldn't listen?

I feel you on that struggle. 

I definitely need to work on my boundaries! I wish I could stand up for myself more but it never seems to make any difference, I’m also terrified of conflict. I love my family but they’re so difficult :(

You are very welcome! You should be proud of your autistic identity and not have to deal with this!

Allie🖤 said:

but sometimes those words really cut deep

I completely understand why, your feelings are absolutely valid. I hope this autistic community can provide you with some much needed positivity and humour (questionable!) I hope we can help improve your mood.

What are your dedicated interests?

I'm sorry you're having to listen to that. It's not as bad as using the r word thankfully but I do feel the same level of lack of understanding from my family. I feel like a nuisance.

You're not too sensitive. Setting your own boundaries is likely a difficult thing for all of us, I struggle with it too.

The best thing I do at the moment is remove myself from the situation if I can. I've often considered getting an advocate because it requires too much mental energy to do it myself. Maybe that's an option? 

I had a friend help me with a guide to share with my parents, that could be an option too?

Thank you! I usually spend most of my time alone and they wonder why… I am proud to be autistic but sometimes those words really cut deep