Published on 12, July, 2020
The past few days have been extremely difficult for me. I’ve had to listen to various family members using the R-word and talk negatively about autistic adults. It seems to slip their mind that I’m autistic and standing right in front of them.
I’m always filled with such sadness and hopelessness when this happens. I’ve said many times before that I don’t feel comfortable with the words they use but it never seems to change anything.
How does everyone else cope with this type of situation? Are my boundaries lacking? Am I too sensitive?
Making your own clothing is cool!
Allie🖤 said:Poppy Z. Brite
Never heard of her! What kind of genres/themes does she write about?
I love everything about autistic experience, my dedicated interest is autistic experience. I love being part of this amazing community and watching an autistic led education platform called Aucademy and writing poetry about being autistic. I have recently started blogging about the importance of autistic community for an autistic led organisation called Neurodiverse Connection! It’s great!
Yeah I’m working on my boundaries! I need to do what’s best for me :)
We will boost you up if you need it!
I like to make doilies and pieces of clothing :) and any book by Poppy Z. Brite is a favourite of mine! What about you?
Allie🖤 said:Thank you! I definitely feel comfortable here already :)
You are very welcome! That’s great, I feel such a strong sense of belonging here too!
What kind of things do you like to make with your crocheting? What is your favourite book?
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Aww bless you
When they start talking and it's heading that way leave the room if you can or you can put in your ear pods and listen to music. Drown out the upsetting stuff.
When you feel sad you should do something you enjoy to make yourself smile and happy again. That's what I do when I'm feeling sad.
I just feel awkward about the whole thing, I don’t even want to tell them exactly how I feel. I feel awkward and embarrassed and I just want to run away from the whole situation. :(
I'm sorry your dealing with this Allie. It's a horrible thing to have to hear and it's bound to make you feel sad, I would feel the exact same way.
Have you tried writing your feelings down? You could do that and show your family. Expressing yourself through writing might be easier for you. I find it easier telling py how I'm feeling in writing than person. I can't speak properly so it's easier to write
Thank you! I definitely feel comfortable here already :)
I love to crochet, read, and watch horror movies
Yeah people rarely try. As a wise man once said, there is no try, only do.
Last year the community group organizer invited me.
I tried to get my former friend to do volunteer work and made up a story saying DWP sent a letter, telling her off for doing volunteer work. Silly person who got into debt and still doing it. Think part of ADHD or autism.
I’ll try not to!
Yeah I’m sure there be upset too, if they were in my position. I don’t think they even want to try to understand
That's a shame. I don't want you to lose hope though.
Sorry I accidentally deleted my replies to you.
Unfortunately they can't walk a mile in your shoes so can never know how this truly affects you. If they could I'm sure it would be different - I try to visualise things from other people's eyes, that helps me understand, my mind is good at that... You should tell them that next time, to put them in your shoes and see if that helps. It's helped me before, makes people think.
I don’t think anything would work if I’m being honest
Thank you. It’s not necessarily directed at me but I can hear it all and they know how it affects me. When I say I don’t appreciate the words, they act like I’m the one with the problem. “Oh it’s just a word!” It makes me feel so small.