Published on 12, July, 2020
Over the past 6 months I have been reaping-my-way through the post-diagnosis autistic service-provision, after all of the searching and hunting for answer, I have been left with a reasonable-suspicion that my initial hypothesis is true. That the field of autism lacks awareness and provision, such that only becoming your owe saviour, is the only sure way of freedom.
But this cannot be done alone, especially in the case of the incompetent and illiterate, success can only be assured though amateur-means and interest-fuelled increment, such as I am. When practiced and exposed enough the autist themself becomes the artist. But alongside the different-aspect off autism, there is also the spared-functional-aspect the side that requires a mentor and peers, to help an autist consider the extremity-and-rigidity and provide proactivity in supporting impairments.
So that begs the question of: What is sanctuary to an autistic-person? Is it a number of things balanced, or is it the glue that binds these things, or it is peer and mentor review such as is observed in this forum? Is it the opportunity for safe-exposure to threats? It is protection and safety from threats and fear?
Also what resources can an autist consider reliable and effective? Because to me it is not to be found in the upper-echelons of professional practice, nor can it be found reliably in operational service-provision, to me it has only been found amongst this forum and within my own skill-and-interest..
out_of_step said:Debbie you have articulated very well my own thoughts. I will add - it's where and with who we can be ourselves. I think the notions are not just physical place but in our head as well.
Debbie you have articulated very well my own thoughts. I will add - it's where and with who we can be ourselves.
I think the notions are not just physical place but in our head as well.
I agree re the 'head space'.
DeSpereaux said:I like what you’ve said it’s soothing, and I believe I shall read in again, when aggravation shrouds me next
That's good to hear.
I think that this thread really resonated with me as it took me decades to find a permanent sanctuary.
I spent a lot of my younger life very insecure: with my parents, when living in rented accommodation, insecure employment, unhappy and insecure relationships etc etc.
Also, most, if not all of my homes, were too noisy for me.
It's really only my situation in life now, ie for the last 15 years, where I feel I have the proper sanctuary I described, but I never take it for granted and still feel concern sometimes that it may be taken away.
The moral of this story is that it took me to 45 years of age to find it, so don't give up hope, everyone who is still seeking it.
Thinking about this, I only really feel I am in a safe place now, 5 years on from my mother's death, as she was a source of great anxiety, chaos, emotional attacks, manipulation and very draining etc etc.