Published on 12, July, 2020
In my case, many have told me that I have made them feel uncomfortable so I've really had to look at myself.
I've never intended to, but I think me being so closed off emotionally (masking perhaps) plus a lot of bad habits didn't really help. I've spilled my guts to people I didn't know very well, and have probed people for personal info sometimes. I regret all of that and am a lot more aware of how I come across, as well as what's appropriate and what's not.
I started looking at how Ed Sheeran speaks and conducts himself in interviews. He'll be the first to admit that he's not the most expressive man in the world but I always think he has a coolness and swagger when he speaks and I wish I had that, but I'm basically masking if I try and emulate him.
The people who used to be in my life would probably describe me as quite expressive sometimes, even though my sense of humour has always been quite dry (another something which doesn't help perhaps?).
I guess it's just about finding that confidence.
I am sometimes aware but a phrase often used by my wife when we go out is….”I can’t believe you just said that,” her thoughts are that I never had any filters fitted at the factory. My answer is that I was just telling the truth, what’s wrong with the truth?
I had a similar conversation when I was out recently...
What is wrong with the truth? I'm told it's 'oversharing' or impolite- whatever that means!
Pegg said:I've tried to learn about polite conversation, even though it bores my socks off.
I'm useless at polite conversation. I always rely on input before responding otherwise I don't immediately respond---puts people off
Absolutely, it all comes out as the alcohol goes in! I used to think, well good, now they've all been honest they can start having real friendships! But no... the truth is blamed on the booze as if it doesn't count and they go back to being superficial!
Roy said:Oversharing is just autistic people talking about something really interesting and want everyone else to enjoy it as much as them
Yes! Exactly! I think probably as my interest switches on, everyone else switches off!
I often don't notice that though, occasionally I meet people who want to talk about the same stuff as I do, then it's the best!
I've tried to learn about polite conversation, even though it bores my socks off.
I was always told as a child to tell the truth, I love to people watch, I’ve seen groups of mums on a night out, at the start all friends, 2 bottles of wine in and there will be one pulling the hair extensions out of another and telling them the truth! It’s something I can’t work with, the false smiles and just having to belong to a group because they need to. Oversharing is just autistic people talking about something really interesting and want everyone else to enjoy it as much as them!