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How often do you try to convince yourself you’re fine when you’re actually not, if at all?

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over 1 year ago

Personally, my negative emotions have often been dismissed and/or mocked whenever I try to talk about them. I’m told I just need to get over myself while they value their views over mine (to be specific, have no consideration toward my personal views) and expect me to follow through.

This would result in me having a meltdown, constantly questioning myself whether I’m in the wrong for feeling this way. I often catch myself saying “you’re going to be ok” and “act like a normal human being” whenever there’s a bunch of stress and sadness building up inside me and I try to bottle it up. I discredit my feelings because of this. And it’s damaged me.

Many times I get involved in fights and arguments with other people that I end up being the only one facing the consequences, I feel like everything is my fault. I’m trying to move on, but it’s difficult for me to. I felt like I deserved to be scrutinized, criticized by every skeptic that I run into, feeling often uncertain of myself.

I felt like I’ve said enough. Anyways, what are your experiences?

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  • over 1 year ago

    I used to be in conscious denial a lot, I don't have alexithymia, I think I always knew when I felt bad really it was just that I had gotten into the bad of trying to constantly squash down my feelings of overwhelm because I was determined that I must have been misdiagnosed, and had really unhealthy expectations about what I could cope with along with really heavy masking too. It would also lead to shutdowns and meltdowns a lot.
    But now I don't think of autism as disabling in the sense of an absolute inability, I had to come to terms with the fact that in order to do the same things as others I have to do them in a way that specifically works for me, that guards my energy and emotional investment budget, and makes sense to me even when I don't have great executive functioning days and feel thoughroughly brain scrambled.
    And that means touching base with myself regularly, looking out for waring signs that I've been going at things too hard, too fast, or too long, and taking breaks and delegating some stuff where I need to. That sort of thing.

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  • over 1 year ago

    I used to be in conscious denial a lot, I don't have alexithymia, I think I always knew when I felt bad really it was just that I had gotten into the bad of trying to constantly squash down my feelings of overwhelm because I was determined that I must have been misdiagnosed, and had really unhealthy expectations about what I could cope with along with really heavy masking too. It would also lead to shutdowns and meltdowns a lot.
    But now I don't think of autism as disabling in the sense of an absolute inability, I had to come to terms with the fact that in order to do the same things as others I have to do them in a way that specifically works for me, that guards my energy and emotional investment budget, and makes sense to me even when I don't have great executive functioning days and feel thoughroughly brain scrambled.
    And that means touching base with myself regularly, looking out for waring signs that I've been going at things too hard, too fast, or too long, and taking breaks and delegating some stuff where I need to. That sort of thing.

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