Published on 12, July, 2020
For the last year and a half I have been pushing myself with travelling by myself around Europe, doing camp america and other things. I started university last September after doing all this stuff and camp america was just before I began uni.
Throughout my whole year of uni, I was obsessed with pushing myself with socialising, doing rowing in a loud gym, (which I didn't mind most of the time) trying to get a girlfriend, studying a lot, partying, and self improvement videos mainly with learning how to learn. Both Christmas and Easter break I was completely shut down. I had constant migraines, could barely look at a screen, lights were mainly had to be off, and it had to be quiet. I pushed myself too far, but I didn't know when to stop. Even when I started to slow down a bit with how hard I was pushing after christmas, with having help from a academic mentor mainly, and a little bit of a therapist, it was still extremely challenging and difficult. I was still recovering, and my body needed rest but I couldn't. I had assignments and revision I had to do over these terms (I do human biology). I was also suffering a lot with this girl that rejected me that I saw for a bit and some of my family dying, I was a bit all over the place. I felt manly numb during that academic year, except from the first month and a bit, Including seeing that girl. After that, I just got used to that feeling of desensitization. I didn't know what it's like before, feeling great emotions. Except from in dreams where I feel those great emotions again.
After first year, and the major stress of exams (I am studying human biology) and a month later, I still have migraines, major desensitization, can't really socialize for too long, brain needs a lot of breaks when processing information . I some times get bursts of emotions like laughter or crying when watching anime, but my mind and body don't feel connected. I know this is autistic burnout. Can anyone relate / have any tips? This is what I have been trying so far:
I have been having cold showers most mornings, wim hof breathing too. I also try to do mediation, and am going to start to take walks when I get up. I realized I also had no fixed bed time and getting up routine so I'm starting that now. I also think that low dopamine activities will help,.so I'm incorporating some of those. I also try to do some exercise at home. But all of this is really hard, cause basic tasks are challenging when burnout.
Side note. Does anyone know how to turn off ingrained masking like around friends and family.
Thanks for reading.
NAS87407 said: also think that low dopamine activities will help,.so I'm incorporating some of those. I also try to do some exercise at home. But all of this is really hard, cause basic tasks are challenging when burnout.
My advice is to find a low energy but high dopamine reward task, something really simple to give you the sense of achievement to kick-off and get the momentum going to do other stuff. Like think of the easiest and shortest time task then set yourself to do it, then if you feel the momentum build take on a little more or a little bigger until you can snowball back into productivity again, but remember the second you lose the momentum to just stop, you can't run on no fuel after all. And sometimes the most productive thing you can do is nothing. If you need a do-nothing day where all you achieve is feed and water yourself before you go back to bed, those are fine to have too. Just be careful you don't need too many of them or get stuck in them because that can be a sign of clinical depression, the do-nothing days need to be an oasis not a prison.
Thanks for your time writing this message. Much appreciated. I try making my bed every morning. This isn't a high dopamine activity, but it's a start. Usually I find rewarding tasks / high dopamine activities to either be time consuming as dopamine is an anticipatory neurotransmitter I believe. Video games seem to b good, but I try not to do that straight away in the morning.
I find cold showers to have that effect maybe?