Published on 12, July, 2020
This may be more appropriate for the older members, but younger ones may find it useful and may have some advice to give.
My really big one is I wish I was less of a 'people pleaser', less compliant.
I think I have been quite easily manipulated during my life and if I hadn't been, my life would have taken a different course.
I have finally learnt to say 'no' and am trying hard to 'please myself'.
What about you?
I definitely had a period in my life (my childhood/adolescence was... Difficult) where I took care of others and cared more about others than I did myself. At some point I lost myself and my self confidence and self trust in the process. There were a lot of things that were outside of my control but some bad situations that, with a bit of advice or guidance, may have been avoided.
I would advise myself that I have no obligation to stay in situations that cause me hurt or discomfort. That not everything is my fault, even if it feels like it (or in some cases I am told it is). Finally, that once proper adulthood comes, and with that more freedom and autonomy, things do get so much better.
I'm glad to be in a much better place now.