Published on 12, July, 2020
Well well.. a very important topic for me.
How to name a feeling is a huge struggle. I could describe myself as a colour blind person who is looking at a very long colour palette. My emotions and feelings are the hundreds of colours in the palette and I'm the person who can't see more than blue, red and yellow and hundreds of shades of grey. Although I'm very sensitive and I know that my emotional landscape is very rich (hundreds of hues in my palette), I can't always name my feeling (recognise the hue for what it is), therefore I don't know how to manage it. An example, although I felt anxious in many situations in my life, I've never knew that this feeling is anxiety until last therapy session when my therapist said "when you feel anxious it's good to think of ...." And I was like "wait a minute, is this what I just described to her now (racing thoughts, restlessness, stomach pain..) is called anxiety? Wow, I finally have a name for this feeling!".. even tho I don't consider names as useful info at all, when it comes to feelings, I think it's important to name them in order to memorize it easily and research how to manage it.
Question here is, is there a book, therapy, technique or anything that would help me recognise and name my feelings? Also, am I now describing Alexithymia? I tend to really relate to others and it sort of feels like I could recognise how others feel more than myself..
Adagio for Strings was written by Samuel Barber as an expression of him mourning his wife that had recently passed. It's beautiful because it expresses his love, but painful because he lost her and is accepting all of the consequences. It's a horrible despair based on the beauty of what once was, so he wrote her a song as a way of keeping her alive in some form forever because her life had such a lasting impact on humanity, that we are still discussing the piece written for her.
Hi thanks. Expressing love means someone feels love. If someone is happy they can feel love. Is happiness similar to love. Do all kinds of things share qualities with other things even if not exactly the same. An expression of grief is relief therefore aiming towards happiness and love so there has to be some element in the process.
I wonder do autistics feel on an edge of awareness level beyond simple categories so do not use words familiar to others experience. I don’t know.
Categorical words can be singular and time static object related. But if co-dependently originated and process related involving time of course there are no words for emotions as in maybe western etymology developing from Greek taxonomy. Rather than Autistics do not feel emotions.
I don’t know, just my joining my culture education neurodivergence with mindfulness.