Published on 12, July, 2020
Are autistic people known for being wild in bed and actively sought out by NTs? I saw a post on reddit where an NT said they did that and implied that it's common knowledge that some NTs do that because autistic people have that reputation. Anyone know?
Having had a bit of time to think on this, i have to echo some comments that this is an extremely dangerous 'rumour', for autistic women especially.
The creeps, pervs and guys looking to play out their particular kink will target vulnerable autistic women, who (like me) are terrible judges of character. They will coerce them into 'performing'. This may happen repeatedly, so it will completely ruin their perception of men and sex.
Worse that that, if guys think autistic women are just sex toys for perverts, no guy looking for a real relationship will go near them.
This is terrible all around. If you want to protect autistic women, any time you are asked if autistic women are kinky ... SAY NO!
Touay said:If you want to protect autistic women, any time you are asked if autistic women are kinky ... SAY NO!
I think it's more complicated than that though- some autistic women ARE kinky, and that's fine. The problem arises when someone assumes that we're all the same, whether that assumption is "all autistic women will indulge your kinks" or "all autistic women can be manipulated into doing whatever you want them to." I don't think dismissing the experience of any subset of autistic women is helpful here.
Yeah there are precicly 2 things you can say about 'all autistic people.'
That's literally the 2 main pillars of the diagnostic criteria. Beyond that everything is variable.
Indeed, all group identities have a downside, because we are all unique. If some want to indulge in .. whatever ... have at it, i just see so much scope for abuse if this reputation is propagated.