Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all. I'm Lauren and I'm new here. I strongly suspect that I'm autistic but no-one apart from my sister understands unfortunately.
I'm posting here today as I'd just like some advice!
I have acquired a new friendship group in the form of mothers from my children's school. At the beginning I was happy to meet up for cups of coffee or going on an occasional night out, but they're doing this really regularly now, sometimes 3-4 times a week, as well as seeing each other at the morning and afternoon school run. I'm not comfortable with doing this as I really love to be alone everyday. They're even talking about having group family holidays which makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable.
They don't understand why I'm not interested in doing these things with them? They keep pressing me, insisting they must have done something wrong to me or I'm angry with them for something because I keep making excuses not to see them.
They say that I'm avoiding them, and in fairness I am avoiding them. It seems that the more they press me on the issue, the more i want to avoid them. I just really dont want to see people everyday. And anyone I ask for advice just doesnt understand! Does anyone here understand please? I do have 4 boys under 8 so I'm burnt out most of the time anyway...
Thank you!
Yes. I think I understand what you are talking about/feeling/behaving. It is inexplicably hard to explain though, even to someone such as yourself who already "knows" that something is very "off" with your own behaviour. The more pressure exerted to make you comply, the more you will resist, so no need to worry on that front. Be careful how you exhibit your resistance. Try not to go proper bat s h t crazy....you will be made to regret it.
Sorry to sound a little bit odd and mysterious myself.....I am....but only like you.
Stick around in these pages and try to understand yourself better.
I think I've already appeared as crazy with the little web of lies ive created to avoid seeing them. Whoops...
But you are right. The more pressure they're applying, the more I'm pulling away from them. I've very comfortable with having individual friendships kept separate but the group is a whole new dynamic!
I'm so grateful I am understood here. Thank you!