I am a recently diagnosed autistic woman. I am in a loving communicative relationship and live with my partner who is also a woman.
I have recently re-discovered my special interest, which is one which I have always had but have squashed down inside me due to shame and societal pressure. It has been a very exciting journey learning all about this special interest again, starting collecting things and absorbing myself in it.
Unfortunately this has lead to me not feeling/being present in 'real life' much. I find the special interest takes over my brain, I think about it all the time and want to research it all the time and my partner feels I am not present in the relationship and that I am not giving the relationship the attention it needs. This makes me very sad as I love my partner so much but I am also so excited about the special interest. She feels jealous and guilty for feeing bad as she knows I love her and knows I am autistic. We have talked a lot about this and I agree that it is becoming a problem and I feel as though I've 'checked out' from real life a bit and I cannot stop thinking about the special interest.
Is this happening because the special interest is 'new'? Has anyone else had this experience? Has anything helped? I feel very alone as not many people understand it as I have only one autistic friend.