Feeling a bit alone today

Hi Billy, I hope it all goes/went well for your wife and that the baby is very healthy and happy xx

Thank you for all the kind messages guys, it means so much. Today took an unexpected turn, once I came out of the jobcentre I found my wife had gone into labour! so she is in hospital now 

I get that. I'm so sorry you are going through this and sadly have no magic advice, but I get that

Hey. I'm really sorry you are struggling. I'm also in burnout so completely understand. I wasn't able to return to college sadly, maybe next year.

I think you need to do what's right for you. If you can't manage then it's best to not put pressure on yourself. That will make it a million times worse for you. Be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time. If you can't manage job centre then ring up and explain your situation, or maybe family can do that for you. That's what I do if I can't face something. Forcing yourself into it will do no good.

Make sure you get plenty of rest as well. Rest is essential to recovering. 

And try not to worry. Take it one day at a time. Keep smiling xx

Billy87 said:

Sometimes I just need a few other autistic people to talk to, people that get it 

I totally get it Billy87 as all the others that have commented do, so you're not alone. I understand as well about speaking to people who get it, because there are people around who can make things worse for you because they don't get it.

What you're feeling is valid, and how you are dealing with it is valid. I hope you understand that you don't have to rush yourself, and it is fine to go at your own pace.

Sorry to hear this. I was feeling terribly alone yesterday and today I'm much better. Sometimes we can only take things one hour at a time to get through the day. Agree having people who understand helps. So to add to the other voices here - I understand the burnout and the problem isn't you. We live in a world which is a struggle for us sometimes.

I know the feeling, Boss!

I have a low-tolerance level of chaos, disorganisation and stress! This morning, I experienced ALL THREE!

Sorry you are  feeling lonely today, we are here for you to chat you.

It must be really difficult if you feel like you are relapsing with autistic burnout. Be kind to yourself. An autistic burnout is your brain’s way of telling you need to stop, slow down and minimise demands in order to recuperate.

I know it might be difficult because you are in burnout, but acknowledge small achievements like getting out of bed.

‘Got an appointment at the jobcentre today which Im terrified about, havnt had to go there in years.’

This is a great step, try and recognise this achievement. It’s some way out of burnout.

All your feelings are valid. Have you heard of energy accounting? It a method that many autistic to help them manage their energy levels and daily tasks.

For example, you plan a certain number of energy depleting tasks in balance with others that are energy deposits in order to avoid overwhelm and therefore hopefully burnout. I know you may not be able to use this method now because you are in the midst of burnout but it may be useful for you to avoid another one in the future.

Below is a video from Purple Ella about energy accounting:

https://youtu.be/fsxqOFPKi1U

It’s really important to important to talk to other autistic people who just get it, so you don’t have to explain yourself.

I hope this reply makes you feel slightly better and less isolated.  We are your autistic community, you are not alone.

Sorry to hear you're feeling that way Billy. That sounds like a positive step, and it's just a way to test the waters, see how you feel once you've been and take things from there. 'One day at a time' can slip from our grasp so easily when catastrophising kicks in, but you can do this! I hope the rest of the week is a bit kinder to you.